Mother in desperate need of help

[MotherOfOne86]

Hi iam Cynthia a 25 year old single mother of a 4 year old iam asking for help cause I've had a lot of issues with my daughter within the past year see over 2 years ago me and my husband broke up he took my daughter and would not let me see her for one year and I've had her back for a year since I got her back in the beginning she use to hit me and smart talk me well I broke her from that she has smart talked me the whole time and won't stop tells me she don't love me and don't care about me and the list goes on I've have tried everything in the book to fix that she tries to tell me what she is and isn't gonna do and when she don't get her way she tells me she wants to go live with her dad. There is so much more but that's just a little of the stuff. Can someone help me please. Thanks Cynthia

[schoolpsyc]

Cynthia, this must be so hard for you. Your daughter is just adjusting to a new life right now. Even though it may be hard because your daughter isn't treating you like she should, you must try to pair yourself with good experiences for your daughter. Try to do things that are special for her, and take her to fun places. Surprise her with a small toy that she will like. Explain to her that saying mean things to you is hurtful and that isn't what families do. Make sure you treat her fairly, and be consistent with what you do and say. When she says those things don't react emotionally, simply explain that those are not nice things to say. Make sure you say nice things to her and never say mean things because that will just give her ammunition, and more reason to say mean things to you. Even though you are the adult, you must treat her how you would want to be treated.