I didn't know where to post this, so I thought in this thread seemed best.
My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years now, and our daughter is 3. He is not her biological father, but he all she knows.
He used to be so good with her, and still is most of the time, but ever since we moved in together it is like his patience with her gets smaller and smaller. He gets frustrated over stupid things, and when they do get along, it isn't for long before one makes the other one upset in one way or another. I tell him all the time he has to remember he is her parent not her sibling, and that he can't get upset with her that way. It just keeps happening. Lately, he has been saying the most negative things, and it really hurts me. He never says it in front of her, only after she is out of the room but it still is really uncalled for, and usually over nothing.
I have tried talking to him about it, but it never gets far.
I know he has a short temper, but you think by now he would be used to it. He is only around her for a few hours a day as it is, and it's like he can't even handle that. As a stay-at-home mom I am around her all the time. I know she gets frustrating, but he has to remember she is still a person too and has feelings and is in a bad mood sometimes and that doesn't mean he should get angry with her.
How can I bring this up and make an impression that will stick.
I believe you need to look further into the future before you start making any commitment to do what's best for your daughter and YES YOUR DAUGHTER not your boyfriend. If you still see your boyfriend in your look into the future then it's time you confront him about his attitude and treatment and that he either get real with your daughter's growing up and try his adult best to be a part of it or get left behind. Your daughter needs a Daddy figure but will never lack (obviously) a Mommy figure. I'm a Dad but I've known enough Mothers throughout my life that even when they fail they fail much better and with honor than Fathers. I have my Grand-mother, my mother, my mother-in-law, my 3 sisters, my 2 sister-in-laws, and last but definitely not the least my wife to back up my opinion/fact of Mothers. A BIG round of APPLAUSE to you. You can fail your boyfriend but don't fail your daughter, she is the flag carrier when you're gone. And you are the flag she will be carrying. Think of her in that term and your decisions and actions should be clear to you. Don't waste your time on selfish people and doubts.