Dads, Can I Have Your Insight on This?

[RedSoxBoy]

Hello!

Let me start off by saying that I would like a little insight from the fathers out there. I am sorry that I am not really supposed to be a part of the forum, but I needed to get your perspective. I am a 19 year old guy who is a freshman in college and I have a huge crush on this girl who is a sophomore in high school, and will turn 16 in about a month. I absolutely, under any circumstances, plan to have sex with her, or do anything sexually with her for that matter while she is underage. I understand the laws and know that it is illegal for me to do anything sexual with her while she is a minor, and I would end up going to prison for it. I also have some pretty big life goals that I have set for myself, and don't want to jeopardize them. This girl is very sweet, smart & intelligent, and I just love being around her. I have never had a girlfriend in my life and have never really liked a girl. Unlike most guys my age, I am probably very far behind them in their stages of life. I just recently got my drivers license at age 19 because I have an eye condition that enabled me to be able to drive. I received a surgery recently to correct most of it. I have been raised my whole life by my single mom & try to help her out as much as I can. I also do not do drugs, drink, or party in any means & I still live at home since I am going to college in my hometown.

Dads, what are your thoughts on this? And, how would this make you feel if a guy like me asked out your daughter? I know that I probably should not be posting On this forum, but I would really like a father's point of view.

Thank you so much!

[aporthetalk]

Hey RedSoxBoy, I'll give you "a" point of view. I have two daughters so I have seen a lot of young guys come to date my daughters. They all seemed very nice and respectful when they came to meet my wife and I, but they all really seemed to want just one thing, Sex. They never really came to the table with anything else really, maybe because they were younger guys. You sound like a nice guy, but you do have some red flags. You said you like being around her, I would get to know her first, find out what she likes, find the things you have in common, and just be her friend for a while. As you said you have a lot of goals in your life and that is much more inportant than rushing into a relationship. Especially where you are still fairly young and haven't been involved in a relationship before. This will be a new thing for you, she may have already been in some sort of relationship before if she is as beautiful and smart as you say. There are a lot of beautiful women out there. If you were to get into a relationship with this girl and she dumps you after a short time, you will feel as though she has just stomped on your heart. It will be a horrible feeling but being your first relationship it could very well happen as you haven't had a previous relationship and you are bound to make a few mistakes, say the wrong thing, or you may even find out you don't really like her. Relationships are very deep, and not for the faint of heart. If you do end up dating, and sex is going to happen try to be sure this is the girl you would want to have a kid with. Otherwise try to make sure she is using some sort of contraception, and you should be using condoms, this will help keep your life goals intact. Good luck, and be careful!!