My MIL and i don't speak the same language, literally. Although she is very sweet and caring, we don't have much of a relationship. I wish we could be closer.
well I get along with my mil. I talk to her more than my wife does. my ils will call and talk to me for a half hour or so a day and when my wife gets on the phone they jump off, she gets pissed. they'll call and ask for me and she will hand me the phone and say here it's my dad but he wants to talk to his son lol.
I have two mothers-in-law, since my husband has a mom and a stepmom. I am blessed to have both. When my husband and I decided to move out of our apartment and buy a home we found a super cute duplex but were leary of having strangers for tenants. My husband's mother was looking to move into a new apt since she was going to be living with her boyfriend. She offered to move in upstairs. It has been amazing. She only pays enough rent to cover half the mortgage, if I need to run to the store she just come downstairs to watch the kids. I love my mother in law living upstairs. My husbands stepmom is just as wonderful. We live only two blocks away and spend almost all summer with his parents in their pool. They treat all their grandchildren equally, spoiled rotten! I enjoy spending time with his extended family more than my own. They are all very close, we all live in the same city and we spend lots of time together. Since my family lives 45 minutes away and we don't spend a lot of time together (my parents and we do but not extended family) so I love that my son and stepdaughter get to spend so much time with grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, great-aunts, great-uncles, and great grandparents!
I like my MIL BUT(yes a BIG BUT) There's things she has done to me names she's called me etc that i will forgive but not forgive.Basically what i'm trying to say is I dont think I will ever consider my MIL a Friend or even anything more.I try to but I just can't force myself. She has tried to attack me with my son in my arms when he was about 6 mos old...she has tried to ruin me and hubby's marrige like a bazillion times...She has called me things like Whore and slut and she's even gone as far as trying to convince her son (My hubby) that I was cheating on HIM!!!I really can't forget things like that.AM I wrong for this?
Funny thing is She hates to hear it but it's true about the slut thing...I Def. am by FAR NOT A WHORE or SLUT. I have been with one man (Sexually) in my life I am VERY happily Married to him and we are on our way to Having 2 Beautiful children.lol lol lol sorry just had to take a laugh....and a BOW...
~BoBBiE~
Mommy of AIden Lee Born Jan.26th 2007
Soon to be Mommy of Kaileigh Christine Due Mar.9th 2009
I like my in-laws. I'm actually really shy and awkward around them because of past bad experiences with families of people I dated, but they are really nice to me. We live with them and they are happy and excited that we're having a baby. And my parents get along great with them and go out together sometimes.
It is hard to mesh families. People have different expectations and experiences and values. Sometimes, having a baby heals wounds. Sometimes it makes them worse.