I know what you are going through, I had the same fears too (hungry or "somethings wrong"). I didn't officially wean my son from night feedings until 8mo-1yr (can't remember exactly when any more :-) - It is hard. Your baby is probably is not truly hungry, but just used to being able to nurse. I remember there would be a week where my son slept through the night, then he would get a fever or be teething, etc. So I'd nurse him once a night, then somehow he started waking up to nurse twice a night, then 3 times a night, then I'd realize I'd have to get tough again and he'd start sleeping through the night again. A lot just to say it takes work but you'll get there.
Even when she is yelling in the middle of the night, don't pick her up (I know, an almost impossible task). Pat her back, sing a soothing song, etc, but don't pick her up. I found when I did this with my son it would take about a week, but then he either stopped waking up or I could "wean" to soothing him for briefer and briefer periods of time. (PS the first week at 5 months old that I put him down awake took over an hour of crying and me patting his back for him to fall asleep, but by the end of the week he was doing it in a few minutes)
We also gave our baby motrin a lot at night when he was teething. Always afraid I was going to make him a pain reliever junkie, but it did seem to help.
Here are a couple of threads I posted to a while ago to similar questions. They might have some ideas that you find helpful. At the very least you'll know you are not the only one :-)
Last edited by Newmom!; 07-12-2011 at 03:52 PM.
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