I am a mother of two, 6 year-old and 1 year-old, and my daughter came home from school about two weeks ago very happy saying that a little boy from her class has a crush on her. We have (tried) not to make a big deal about this situation, but I am concerned a bit. Is this normal at this age, and what really I guess bugs me is that when she sees the boy and friends(boys) from her class she gets giggly. Should I say something to her, besides what we have already explained: which is that boys can be her friends but not boyfriend and girlfriend??
...What to do???
I think its normal. I remember having a crush on a boy named Jared in Elementary. Iliked him from 1st grade to 6th grade. Nothing ever came of it and I think its normal for kids to start getting "giggly" about it at this age. I wouldnt worry about it and I think the explaination you are giving is great.
I Think You Are Doing The Right Thing. I Remember My Sister Always Had A "boyfriend" In Elementary School. They Even Bought Her Special Bears For Valentine's Day. Lol. I ,on The Other Hand, Didn't Like Boys That Way Until Like 4th Grade. (they Had Cooties Lol) I Think It's Totally Normal Though!! Good Luck W/ The Teen Years!!
I think it's completely normal. When I was 6 I had a boyfriend. We only broke up because there was a game that the boyfriend had to chase the girlfriend at every recess and I got tired of running so much lol.
But if you think they shouldn't deem themselves "boyfriend and girlfriend" that is completely fine too, just depends on parental opinion.
My daughter is 7 and in 3rd grade and she's been coming home talking about "boyfriends" and who she's going to marry since 1st grade. I just gently explain to her that it's nice to be friends with boys and to talk to them, but right now she's too young to be thinking about "boyfriends" and marriage. Every time she mentions it I say the same thing. I think it's just a kid/growing up thing that is completely normal and nothing to really worry about right now.
My children watch my husband and I talk and kiss and tease each other and it makes them feel happy to know we love each other. Sometimes our children seem to want to have their own "sweeties". They see us happy and want to emulate us. That is a normal and healthy responce. My oldest Daughter(7) has had a crush on a boy since kindergarten, and we talk about how it's great to have a lot of girls and boys who are frineds and not worry about boyfriends right now. I remind her to enjoy being young and be happy. She likes that Idea. My son (6) just the other day came up to me and rested his head on my arm and sighed then confessed that he likes girls. so we talked about girls a bit. He thinks they smell good and that they are nice. And for now I left it at that, but we'll sit and talk like I did with my daughter as he comes to like specific girls.
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My daughter actually kissed her crush in kindergarten, she told me that the two of them did it on a dare. Naturally , we told her that its great to have friends that are boys, but kissing is inappropriate. Now in first grade she stills tends to play with the boys more and loves to have them chase her.
I remember liking to play tag when I was young, but the kissing, YIKES.
It is normal. Parents do more damage by limiting their childrens contact with the opposite sex than just being there to consult and advise. I too had a boyfriend from the 2nd grade until the 6th grade - only he didn't know he was my boyfriend. Alot of times we worry but our little girls want boyfriends more than the little boys want girlfriends. I was allowed to have boys as friends throughout my life, my best friend was kept practically locked in the tower with no contact with the opposite sex until she went to college. When she went to college she went CRAZY, had sex for the first time became a total slut, by her junior year in college she had gotten married at a JOP (never telling her family) and divorced within a year. Me on the other hand, ok I lost my virginity in highschool, to a boy that I had been with since my freshman year. I told my parents about it, when it happened and went on birth control. It was just practical, and today I'm married to a great man, expecting our first baby and my "number" ( You know what number) didn't get high at all before I met my fiance ( who I made "wait" even though I wasn't a virgin.
Talk to your daughters. Let them know school first - but supervised "male-female" friendships are an important part of socialization. Dating will not be their undoing, they wont become unsuccessful women because they kissed a boy in the sixth grade - however feeling that they can't come to you for parental advice ( not to be confused with friendship) might contribute to their downfall someday, when they want to make bad decisions and they will - you have to be "in the loop" if they've cut you out thats where the trouble begins.
I was cleaning out my 1st grade daughter's backpack after school and found a love note she had written to a boy in her class... apparently that was what she was up to the other day in her room when I strolled by and she told me "don't come in" because she was doing something secret. I'm not sure whether or how to bring the crush up with her. Does anyone have any advice?