Middle Name Dilemma

[sjk2200]

This is my first post on here so I'm not very familiar with how to do this, but my husband and I are having a dilemma with our baby girl's name...and since we're not sharing it with family/friends until she's born..I thought I'd get some advide from you guys!

We've decided on a first name for our little girl, Elin (EE-lin). However, we're having a hard time with the middle name. We origially came up with the name "Jayne" as a middle name for our girl when we had another first name picked out. "Jay" is my husband's brother and we thought it would be nice to keep a "family name". The other first name we had picked out (Edie) I would classify as a "cute" name which I think goes well with Jayne. Now that we've decided on Elin (which I think is more "elegant", I'm not sure that "Jayne" really fits. We really like Elin Estella now.

The dilema...Jay, the husbands brother, got it out of my husband that we were going to use his name for a middle name and he of course was really honored and excited. So now do we stick with Jayne becasue we don't want to crush him and have a so-so name for our girl?? Or do we risk hurt feelings and go with Estella?? Sorry this turned out to be so long (first post FAIL) Would appreciate any advice!..

[suzisteinberg]

First of all, you are so kind to be concerned about your brother-in-law's feelings regarding the name you choose for your baby. I'm sure he feels honored that you thought of his name at all. But doubtful that he would be hurt if you change your mind. If he's as thoughtful as you are he would only want you to be happy. You should be in love with whatever name you choose for whatever reason you choose it. I would hit it head on and just tell him you changed your mind though so he's not baffled when you make the announcement

[Newmom!]

No you don't use your family name just 'cuz it's family. You have to like it too. You can explain the entire process and dilemma to your Brother-in-law when baby is born (I agree with letting him know that you did change it beforehand though). He should appreciate the thought even though there was no "follow through".

On the other hand, I like Elin Jayne (I am pronouncing in Ja-nay) if it is Jane, then yeah, sounds funny. _ I just saw it spelled Jayney on another website, that would give you the "Jay" you are looking for and a pronounciation that sounds good. But then again, if you don't like it, don't use it :-)

You need to do what makes you happy, as you are the one who will be using the name over and over.