I've been dating my boyfriend now for over a year. We each have a boy, 5 & 8. We've been talking about moving in together and getting married a lot lately, but he still hasn't introduced me to his son's mom. They have an okay relationship and their son goes back and forth almost every other day. She does has a temper and has made it clear she has no use for me being in her son's life, but I'm not asking to take over as his mom, I just want to be there too. I'd like to go to school programs or just know that its okay for me to be at his house when she drops him off. Isn't my boyfriend just prolonging the inevitable? He says he doesn't want the drama, but if he's really ready to move in and marry me, isn't she just going to have to deal with me being around?
Is it possible that the last relationship he was in with was ruined by the interaction with the child's mom? Maybe he is worried that it will happen again. Let him know, kindly, how you feel, but also be sure to find out the reasons for his feelings. It is possible that once you meet the mom you will wish you didn't. He might be trying to protect you from that.
State Certified Early Childhood Special Education Teacher
New Mom as of March 2009!