4 year old yelling at me all day long!

[DN7PRH11]

I am so confused, I have no idea how to respond to my child's disrespectful behavior. For example, when my dd has to go to time out, I follow the Supernanny's steps, and take her to time out ( I put her on her time out spot) she immediately removes herself about a foot away from her mat and says in a very disrespectful tone of voice "I can do it myself"....if I wait for her to do it herself she does not go in so I pick her back up and put her back in and the whole scenario repeats and can go on for an hour. Also, once her timeout is done I will come to her and (following the steps) explain why I put her in timeout...she usually starts flipping out as soon as I open my mouth to talk and yells "Don't tell me!" and throwing a tantrum. I've tried being patient and just letting her direct herself (let her explain why shes there and apologize without me reminding her to do so), but she doesn't do it...she just sits there making me wait. If I try to be the parent she yells at me "don't tell me!" "I can do it myself". And this is not just limited to her timeout scenarios....she is constantly yelling these two phrases at me all day long when I try to be her mother and remind her to do things or if I tell her to do things (in a polite nice tone...not a demanding one). I don't know how to respond to her when she says those things to me. I've tried saying "Its my job to tell you these things and it is your job as the child to listen to mommy" as I say that she repeats "Don't tell me" over and over again until i finish speaking. What do I do, I need help and I can't find answers!? Please somebody offer me advice!

[ListenToMePlease]

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I am so confused, I have no idea how to respond to my child's disrespectful behavior. For example, when my dd has to go to time out, I follow the Supernanny's steps, and take her to time out ( I put her on her time out spot) she immediately removes herself about a foot away from her mat and says in a very disrespectful tone of voice "I can do it myself"....if I wait for her to do it herself she does not go in so I pick her back up and put her back in and the whole scenario repeats and can go on for an hour. Also, once her timeout is done I will come to her and (following the steps) explain why I put her in timeout...she usually starts flipping out as soon as I open my mouth to talk and yells "Don't tell me!" and throwing a tantrum. I've tried being patient and just letting her direct herself (let her explain why shes there and apologize without me reminding her to do so), but she doesn't do it...she just sits there making me wait. If I try to be the parent she yells at me "don't tell me!" "I can do it myself". And this is not just limited to her timeout scenarios....she is constantly yelling these two phrases at me all day long when I try to be her mother and remind her to do things or if I tell her to do things (in a polite nice tone...not a demanding one). I don't know how to respond to her when she says those things to me. I've tried saying "Its my job to tell you these things and it is your job as the child to listen to mommy" as I say that she repeats "Don't tell me" over and over again until i finish speaking. What do I do, I need help and I can't find answers!? Please somebody offer me advice!

[mominator16]

Ok she is 4, she does not understand you explaining to her why you put her in timeout... When is disrespectful a little swat on the fanny should fix the problem. If she knows you will not tolerate it she will not continue to do it. If that doesn't work put her to bed with out dinner and make her stay in bed, do not allow getting up for any reason.

[jillg20]

Hi Parent - I feel for you. You're on the right track. Better to nip it in the bud now before the pre-teen and teen years. Your child needs to understand who's boss and you're not doing it to be 'mean'. There are some great articles and resources that you can access at:
http://kidstrong.info/

Stay positive!! Best of luck to you and let me know how you make out. Regards Jill