I think your husband is not sure what to do with such a little thing that is non-responsive (at least not responsive the way he imagined children would be). Help him to see how he can play with her and get responses to what he does. He can hold her facing him, make simple slow and repetitive faces (like sticking his tongue out) and she will begin to imitate him. Walk his fingers up her tummy and then beep her nose - preferably with a little phrase, said or sung. She will begin to anticipate her nose being "beeped" (my baby would open his mouth). There is so much more that can be discovered together.
Also, I nursed, and continue to nurse my baby as a toddler. It did not prevent any sort of involvement or bonding between my husband and baby. My husband was fully involved, sitting with us while we nursed, burping baby during and after feedings, getting baby and bringing him to me at night, changing diapers, playing as mentioned above, putting him down for a nap, giving him his daily bath, holding him in the wee hours of the morning when he didn't need to nurse but also didn't want to sleep, etc.
Now my husband and toddler are well bonded. Dad is allowed to do things that I am not (according to our toddler). Help your husband to see how he can play with her and how he can be involved in the feeding process and in her daily schedule. It is also possible he is a little overwhelmed. I have a child development degree and did a ton of babysitting and have younger siblings - I didn't realize how hard of I time I would have being a parent. Maybe he is feeling similar.
One more thought, have him wear a blanket or t-shirt you have worn or slept with. It will smell like you and calm your baby a bit so he will have a more successful play time with her. He does need to interact with the baby about half the time (or more) and you about half the time (or less) in order for her to be comfortable with him, and him with her.
Wish you the best, simply be together as much as possible and try to enjoy being a family.
Last edited by Newmom!; 01-29-2011 at 09:42 PM.
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