I leave for work most mornings by 6:15 a.m. which leaves my husband to get our daughter ready for school and to school by 10 a.m. My issue is that he does not wake up when she does. She gets up between 7:15 and 8:30 a.m. and he will sleep until the alarm goes off at 9 a.m. I'm frustrated because my belief is that at that age, a parent should get up with their children. She is pretty self reliant (get dressed, get breakfast, etc...). Granted, I set out everything she needs for the day, but I just feel terrible that she is up by herself. Am I over-reacting? Is there any article that I can show my husband (I haven't found one yet and he responds better to an article than to me nagging). Please help.
How old is she?
My son is 6 & he, too is pretty self reliant. Can make himself a bowl of cereal, turn on the tv, etc. I'm talking on the weekends (I'm a single mother) and he's up at 730 and I want a few more hours. I'm not dead to the world and leave my bedroom door open so I can hear him. So IMHO I don't see the harm in dad catching a few extra winks.
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How old is she? Has she ever complained about being up by herself? I think that sometimes when it comes to things like this, if the child is old enough to comprehend the situation and doesn't feel any neglect/discomfort from it, that it may not be a big deal. I do, however, understand that as the momma, you have ways that you like things done, and if it is a big enough deal to you that maybe you should address it in more detail and let your husband know exactly why you think he should be up.
I know several parents who, as a couple, do that on the weekend (once their kids were kindergarten or older). They send the kid downstairs to get their own snack bar and turn on the TV while parents get a few more Z's before they get up and make real breakfast.
It in itself may not be a problem, but if you are uncomfortable with it, maybe you two can come up with a compromise. He gets up half hour earlier, or gets up with daughter 3 days a week, or goes to bed earlier so he can keep a more similar schedule with you. It needs to be something you both are happy with.
If she is younger than kindergarten I would hope he would be willing to get up with her. Also, if you have to set everything up, what is he doing? Also, if he works an odd shift, than maybe he should be able to sleep until 9 to get in all his needed sleep.
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How old is your child? It seems that she can do things pretty good on her own. It is hard to say though. If she is younger than he should be up with her to spend some time with her. You could try to point that out to him.
Its good your daughter is self dependent but you should make your hubby learn to get up early with his daughter and spend some time with her!!