I know that women and their weight is a sensitive subject, which is what brings me here. I'm a 30 y/o male and I have been seeing someone and it has become serious, we met last summer. She is 24 years old, works and is a student. I'm obviously attracted to her physically,but from spending time with her i see that she over indulges in junk food and is not very active at all. She has a few extra pounds which is not a major issue to me. I work out 4 times a week and try my best to stay fit. She has a 5 y/o lovely boy who is living out of state for a few months with his father. Seeing her eat all those unhealthy treats makes me think if that's someone i could see my self with for the future if it doesn't stop. My question is, how do I go about suggesting that she works out and lives a more healthy life without being insensitive to her feelings or should I just not even bring it up and just keep setting an example by my actions of staying fit and hope that she comes on board. Like i said, I'm attracted to her physically, but I'm noticing that she's gained a few pounds in the last couple months. Just afraid that her lifestyle will become a issue in the future as it relates to my preference in a woman. I hope I'm not coming across as a "A" hole. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks Ladies - Mark
I think this is a very sensitive issue, and must be approached from just the right angle. Try suggesting that she go with you to workout together, and suggest that you think it would be fun. Plus it would give her more energy to play with her son while setting a good example for him. DO NOT AT ANYTIME MENTION HER WEIGHT.
"Our best successes often come after our greatest disappointments" -Henry Ward Beecher
Okay I will give it a try. I would never mention her weight. thank you .
Well I am 24 and have always known that it is important to eat healthy and be healthy and I have a nice figure yet have been gaining some weight myself. I am working on the healthy diet but it is very hard when in school...I ate chips, candy to stay awake :/ lol or for a little snack if I was doing late work...so if it is something you are concerned about maybe you could cook for her or go to healthy restaurants - I've been wanting to check out a lot of vegetarian/organic/vegan spots....not because I am but for some healthier eating. And definitely suggest working out together...for some it just takes a little extra motivation to go to the gym or go for a run and a workout partner is always the best motivation...maybe suggest a class..boxing or something..? Hope this helps..
I agree with Cay8099... NEVER mention her weight. You have to approach this delicately, and eventually she will begin to realize on her own that you do care about her as a whole, mind body and soul, and aren't just trying to change how she looks. Suggest cuisine like Thai, Greek, and especially Indian food. Take a look at some of her favorite snacks and find healthier recipe variations, like sweet potato fries in lieu of french fries, and take them to the movies and on picnics. And yes, get into a couples workout like boxing, or even try something that her son can get into along with you guys when he comes back into town, like bike riding, laser tag, or go swimming.
All of the above are great ideas to motivate her to get fit. If you are into tae-bo or aerobics, you can invite her to go with you and work out. I'm sure she'll like those dancing workouts. Go bicycling with her and son, play badminton together (I've always known that this sport burns A LOT of calories) and cook healthy and yummy foods for her.