Newborn connection issues

[porkchopsdontfloat]

My wife and I have been married for almost 11 years. We have a 6 year old daughter and a newborn son (12/29/10). For some reason I seem to not have connected with him yet. It was not this way with my daughter. As soon as she was born I was head over heels for her. It has not been that way with my son. He is a good baby, as was my daughter. He only fusses when he is hungry or needs a diaper change. I take care of him to help my wife out, but there is not that need like there was with my daughter. My wife has not noticed yet, but I am sure she will eventually. What the heck is wrong with me?

[cay8099]

Nothing is wrong with you. This is actually common, especially with 2nd babies. The connection will come. Just keep doing what you're doing and the connection with follow. Once his personality starts to develope, and he starts giving those you're my daddy smiles you will start to feel it. Another thought is that the connection may already be there you're just not recognizing it for what it is because it doesn't feel the same as it did with your daughter. This is a totally different child, and you have different feelings, and a different love for this child. This love is equal to what you feel for your first, just different.

[TomInFredonia]

7 weeks ago my youngest daughter was born. I'm not sure why but I don't have the connection that I had with my other two daughters. I even did something really stupid today and ended up hurting her in a physical way. I didn't do it on purpose but that's not the point as I did it. I feel like I need to change but I don't know how. I'm afraid to touch her and I'm afraid to even go near her. My wife left me tonight because she saw the evidence of what I had done. She is willing to come back but wants me to seek counseling. I hate counseling but I would do anything for my family. I'm normally a great father so I don't know what is wrong with me! Any advice or similar situation is greatly appreciated. Just let me know I'm not alone and there is a way to fix this!