I'm 18 and expecting my first child in January. It was unexpected, but my fiance and I are thrilled with him and love him already. It took us months to tell our families because both of them have histories of young pregnancy and we didn't want them to think we 'failed the family.' Once we told them, his family (whom we assumed would take it better than mine) went practically crazy. His mother is convinced that we cannot take care of a child and that we are too lazy to do anything for one. She called me lazy because I had fallen asleep on her couch twice before (one time I was sick with a stomach virus and the other, HELLO I'm pregnant!). Once the initial shock wore off, she began to warm up to the idea, though is still convinced we will be awful parents. My fiance has lived with friends with children and helped take care of them. I babysit my siblings a lot and, even though everyone says it doesn't count, I've handfed multiple animals throughout my highschool years- everything from one week-old kittens to parrots- and I had to get up every two hours with them to feed them. I know it's not the same, but it's the best experience I've had and I feel that it somewhat prepares me. But back to the main question. While out with my mother-in-law buying clothes, I was told by a cashier that I would be back in my old clothes in no time because I'm carrying mostly in the stomach. My MIL immediately scoffs and comes back with, "Well *I* never got back in my old clothes." Later that night I was telling my fiance that I missed seeing my feet and she said, "Honey, you're not going to be seeing those for quite sometime- even after that baby's born!"
And on a side note, it's not just her. Her boyfriend likes to make smart comments to us all the time. I feel that because he's just a boyfriend, he doesn't have an opinion in the matter.
-sigh- I could use any advice or anything... Now I know why my fiance moved out when he was so young...
Im sorry that your mother in life is so hard on you, but you have to not let her get to you. You know your ready for your life to begin with a new baby and your fiance, REGARDLESS of what she says. I wouldnt be a total b**ch to her because its your babies grandma, but you got to let her know that her comments aren't needed at all. As long as your happy and your fiance thats all that matters, at the end of the night, its you two and the baby, not her...so just dont worry about her! Ive been having the same problems. Im 17 and pregnant and because i feel that im ready for my little one to be here, im getting bashed each and every way because of it! Like you ive also babysat my siblings, and hello they lived with me, so i took care of them a lot!!! But i hear all the time, it doesnt count and its just soooooo hard! but i think some people just make it harder than it already is....but anyways back to your question, just smile and live your life, you know your gunna do great and you dont have to prove anything to her!
Thankyou so much! I'm trying very hard to get along with her- I do love her, she's just one of those people that makes it hard to! But thankyou for your support! Congrats on your baby too! You'll do great