Okay ive been dating this guy for almost a year now and im still having problems with the other baby mama. Im only 17 and im really trying to be an adult about this and stay cordial but she's making it hard. Now that my boyfriend and I are having our own baby, she's worse than ever, bashing me on fb and to people in our town..this woman is 22 yrs old!! How do i handle this??
Yes there is something you can do! If the things she is saying about you are FALSE, that is slander. I would send her a cease and desist letter, which states if she does not stop making false statements about you then it confirms her malicious intent and you will have the right to sue her for slander, defamation of character, emotional stress, and possibly stalking. You can get a lawyer to write this letter for you, or you can do some research online about how to do it correctly, send it certified mail with a return receipt (so you know she received it).
What does your boyfriend say about this issue? Is he doing anything proactive to protect your reputation? I understand it may be out of his control, and if thats the case a cease and desist letter would be your first step. I had a similar situation with my husband's ex who was calling him a child-abuser and a predator and all kinds of ridiculous stuff, and he's a teacher! We sued and won & got a great settlement!
If you can get her to stop before taking her to court that is always best, but know that the law is on your side as long as what she is saying is false. The law can't protect you if she's spreading true things of course. If this is affecting your job or standing in the community then you will have an even stronger case. Collect emails or fb messages etc that she has sent you or other individuals about you. Be prepared!