I had a baby 3 months ago and am suffering from PPD for the third time...
I am on meds which kind of stabilise things but I am constantly feeling guilty about all the things I haven't done. I know that I put demands on myself that are maybe unrealistic the problem is that I can't get rid of that guilt feeling and then I'm angry with myself for feeling that way...
How can I stop those guilt feelings? Does anyone else get the same?
What exactly are you feeling guilty over? All the things you havent done? Like what?
No mother or parent is perfect. We all have these ideas in our heads that we have to be everything to everyone. We dont and we cant.
Do you have anyone you can talk to about it?
One way to combat those feelings is to dispute the negative thoughts. For instance, if I'm feeling guilty because I get home late from work and don't get to spend as much time with my kids as I think I should, I can dispute those guilty feelings by reminding myself that I am working to provide for them, and them seeing me work is modeling a strong work ethic. I'm not working late hours because I want to and am avoiding my parenting responsibilities.
Another thing to keep in mind is that PPD is a real thing. Many people in our society treat depression as "all in your head." But that's not true, as you probably know. So, remind yourself that you're overcoming a medical condition which is limiting your ability to do certain things.
I suffer from hypoglycemia. When my blood sugar gets too low, I can't think clearly and speaking is very difficult. As a result, when my blood sugar is low, I can't do my job. Instead of feeling guilty about not being able to write my notes or talk to my clients, I remind myself that it is my blood sugar that is causing the problem. It is NOT that I'm lazy or a poor worker.
Same for you...keep reminding yourself that it is the PPD that is prohibiting you from doing your job fully. It's a temporary condition that you are working toward overcoming. When you are back on your feet completely, you will be back to doing ALL those things you have always done as a mom. But in the meantime, you're in the recovery phase.
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