He said he won't discipline her. He said it's not his kid so he doesn't feel right about it. I would love to live together before we get married but my family doesn't approve. Should I just do it and tell them that I don't want to get divorced again and that i want to do things different, why can't I do what I want with my life??
My minor was Marriage and Family Studies and I just wanted to interject that cohabitation is not generally a good move, especially before a 2nd marriage.
Marriages do not have a high success rate in this country and 2nd marriages have an even lower success rate. But even 1st marriages that begin with cohabitation have lower success rates than those. Most couples who cohabitate don't even end up getting married (ever heard the phrase "why buy the cow when you get the milk for free") and the ones who do tend to report that they felt trapped and weighed down after marriage when really the dynamics haven't changed except for entering into the marriage contract.
Ultimately you have to make the right decision for you and be willing to stand up for yourself and that decision. Good luck in moving forward and may you find the happiness that you deserve!