Should I or shouldn't I?

[scarlettolivia]

I am 33 and my husband is going to be 37 in Sept. and we are thinking of having another child. We have two beautiful little girls, ages 9 and 6. I really want another one and I have always thought I would have 3 children. My husband has been thinking of having another one as well, but we aren't quite sure if we should or not. Our children are finally at an age where we can travel more and we can do things without them, because they are old enough that family is more willing to help out....LOL! I suffered with HG through both pregnancies and was very sick. I dread going through the severe vomiting again, but to me it is worth it in the end. We also worry that there will be too many years between our childrens ages. I also worry about how my 6 yr old will handle not being the baby anymore, she gets very jealous when I spend time with my 12 mo old nephew. My husband and I worry about how it will affect our relationship. We will be going back to not having enough time for each other, and that quality time is something we have been enjoying the past couple of years. I am sure these are things that every couple thinks about, but I want us to make the best decision for our family. Deep down inside I really feel that another baby would be a wonderful addition to our family. I love my girls and I would love to have another beautiful child too love and nurture. I just don't know how hard it would be going from 2 children to 3. I'd love to hear some advice from someone who has felt the same way. thx!

[heatherw3kids]

I was in the same boat of having another baby. My oldest 2000, then 2004, and now 2008. I have now 2 boys and 1 girl. I love having 3 b/c it makes it more interesting around my house. There is jealousy but, we have time with all of them. I love it!!!!!!!!!!! Yeah it can get crazy at times but it is fun. My oldest son and my daughter will lie through their teeth to get out of trouble but, I know who did it most of the time and looking at the baby boy......Oh ya I know one day I will have more fun trying to figure it out. I know that is weird to say but, if you like the "games" then have the other one!!! Good luck with your decision!!!!

[shle8034]

We didn't plan for the third one, it was accident... they are 6 (boy),4 (girl),and 18 months (girl). For me, having third one has created more siblings rivalry betwen the two older ones. At times, I felt guilty for my middle child because the first child always get to try things out for the first time, the third child needs more care and attention because she is little; we really had tried hard to make the second one feel special, like time for just her and mommy or her and daddy. She is a girl and she is very sensitive. Sounds like your daughters are older, they may take it more maturely than my little. Overall I did not regret a bit for having my third one, it has been great !!

[kmercado1128]

I have two children, Elijah (3) and Izaraih (is-ar-e-a) (10 mos.). And i just found out that Im five weeks pregnant!!!!!!! Not to mention I just started Nursing school!!!! Im 30 yrs. old, scared confused, but still moving along!!!!! I was also a middle child inbetween two boys!!!! I felt like the odd one out growing up, Im just gonna have to somehow split time with all of them....including my other kid....aka...my husband

[momx3]

My husband and I had decided to quit after our daughter. I had lost several pregnacies and had a lot of difficulties getting our daughter here. We made several lists of pros and cons to having an only child vs. having more. When we finally both agreed out loud that we weren't going to try again- it was hard, but we thought it was for the best. My husband was planning to get all fixed up after we got home from an upcoming vacation. Well- lets just say we came home with two extra souvenirs! I found out I was pregnant 5 weeks after our vacation (too many margaritas!) We had spent so much time focusing on the plus side to having an only child- I have to admit that it took us a couple days to really get used to the idea. You can only imagine how we felt when the doc announced we were having twins! Joy, fear and hystaria all overwhelmed us! I don't think we spoke a word to eachother for at least 15 min on the car ride home! But with all that said- they are the greatest additions to our family! I look at my three daughters and can't believe how blessed we are! I know its going to be a bumpy path- but I wouldn't take a detour for anything!!

[kayejewels]

I have 3 girls 4 yr old-2003, 2 yrs old-2005, and a 9 month old-2007. I am 1 of 5 daughters my mom has & I am 2nd to the oldest are ages are 1st-32 yrs old, 2nd me-26 yrs old, 3rd-25 yrs old, 4th-20 yrs old, and the baby 5th-17 yrs old. I don't think that the age gap mattered to my mom. As for us kids it as far as who's in charge. I am enjoying life as mom and I wouldn't change anying even my husband & I are totally busy all the time. You have a 9 & 6 yr old so there in school which helps you to devide your time evenly. If you can try to do a mommy & just me day for each of them so that way won't feel left out. Plan a day when may be your husband watches the baby while you take the girls out for lunch or shopping with you. I do this so know that way they feel I still can make time for them.

[carrottopmommy98]

Well my dh wasn't sure about a third as we had a boy (age 5) and a almost 2 year old (girl) when I found out I was due with #3....one time is all it took!!! LOL it was a surprise big time.....Having said that, I was an only child and knew I wanted at least 2 kids....I love having three....yes they will be far apart in age...but I honestly think that sometimes it's nice to have another choice of someone to play with , kwim? Your younger daughter (the jealous one) might really take to having another little person to make laugh, play with and I'm betting that they will end up having a special relationship. yes you will be taking an infant with you to (soccer, gymnastics, dance...or whatever things you do ) but you also will have all day to bond with this amazing little person. Yes, Your life will be different, but there is not a day that goes by that I don't cherish what I have with my last daughter. She brings a cooky sense of humor to our lives....it makes us all laugh. I bet if you sit down and explain that yes things will change and ask them what they are nervous about, you will here things you never would have thought they were thinking.

Good luck with whatever you decide.