Confused!!!!!

[taraken]

I agree with your parents. You need to get a job and become responsible for the family you have created. Your boyfriend also needs to get a full time job and start contributing. I don't want to sound harsh, but getting a job will help you provide more for your child in the long run. It might not be as easy as getting government assistance at first...but within a few years you will be much better off financially. Graduating from high school, then going on assistance without working at all is going to make it that much more difficult to provide for your family later on in life. Also, you have 5.5 months to make money and save for your child....why waste that time. Pregnant people work every day...so unless there is a medical reason not to work....you are just using your child as an excuse to not work. Not hiring someone because they are pregnant is illegal....so this shouldn't be an issue. Maybe look into working at a daycare center. It will help you learn to care for your child and potentially they will let you have your child in daycare for free after he/she is born.

[addies_mom22]

You don't need a job at all, that's crazy. You just got out of high school, what are you going to do, get a blue-collar job, and raise babies? Not only that, you should spend the first year of your child's life at home with them, and assistance makes that possible. There's nothing wrong with being on Assistance for a limited time period, especially for the first year of your baby's life, and it's more possible for you to get an education now, while you're still young. I'm on assistance EXCLUSIVELY (so there) and I'm using this first year of my baby's life to arrange to go to school next year, and then after my 2-year program we plan to have another child, the first year of whose life I will spend on assistance, at home, raising my baby where I should be. And then once my babies are no longer babies, I'll get a job with my newly acquired education, so that I can give my children a better future.

[ZEPHYRVI]

I agree, it is important to have a job. I worked full time when I was expecting, don't worry it's not that stressfull to work while pregnant, there will be some stress but don't sweat it. Try to find work where they offer health benefits too, and if the subject comes up just let your potential employer know, you may be pregnant but that you intend to return to work after you've recovered. Goodluck to you and congrats.