OK so I asked my husband's opinion on this, expecting him to be all for it, right? He said he'd be afraid that the side effects would make him feminine, or that the side effects would do other things, so he woudn't take it. So I said what if hypothetically there were no side effects to this medicine, then would he take it? He hemmed and hawwed but finally admitted, no, even then he woudn't. The whole time we talked about it he looked really uncomfortable. So I'm sitting here thinking (I didn't say it, I'll bring it up later when he talks about it next) that he has been talking about me getting on birthcontrol soon! And I have horrible side effects when I'm on birthcontrol. My husband is normally very fair and not sexist, so I was pretty disappointed in him. But at least he was honest.
I don't think he would. I also don't like the idea of taking birth control pills. I don't like the idea of putting chemicals in my body to regulate things, so as much as I can avoid it, I try to avoid it.
For this contraceptive in particular, I would be afraid of lasting effects or problems down the road. Men have so many worries about prostate cancer and testicular cancer, I just don't think I would want there to be a daily, or even monthly/annually intake of a chemical that is supposed to regulate his ability to conceive on a daily basis. With the amount of sperm produced in a single day, I just think that something capable of not making him fertile at all times would be something that I would be uncomfortable for him to be a guinea pig for.
We use condoms, every single time we have sex, and that works for us, but either way, I refuse to be on the pill, and I would expect no less from him.
Last edited by relocatednyc; 09-18-2008 at 01:18 PM.
Hmm...this is a very interesting topic. After my son was born I started taking the pill for the first time. I hate it. I used to be the type of person who was generally happy, and then a few days before Aunt Flow comes to visit, I'd get kind of sad and moody. On BC I'm even steven all the time. You'd think that would be nice, but really I miss that super happy feeling and even the sad feelings. I talked to my DH about this a few months ago, and he basically said too bad, and changed the subject. I was hoping he would volunteer to use condoms or even say he'd be willing to get a vasectomy when we're sure we're done having kids. But he didn't. Then last month I got strep throat and had to be on anti-biotics for 10 days. The package said to use back up birth control since it can mess with the pill. So we used condoms. DH hated it. Blah blah...doesn't feel as good...blah blah blah. Urgh. Men. So, now I'm thinking about checking into non-hormonal bc. Has anyone tried the IUD that is copper based? What about non-hormonal pill?