it's been 14 months

[cooper4]

i'm turning 28 this year and wanted 2 kids by 30. it's been 14 months and no success. my husband had 2 sperm analysis tests done. both came back fine. i had an ultrasound done, bc i was having really bad pain where my right ovary is. (i thought it might be a cyst or something), apparently everything for both of us checks out fine so far. i have gone thru 2 cycles of Clomid. still nothing. i am on day 30 and for the past 5 or 6 days i have had super mild cramps. i normally get the ovulation cramps (but that lasts a day) and if i get cramps during my period it is also just day one and very painful. these cramps are really faint. i have also been checking my BBT and today it dropped, which i know is not a good sign and my period will probably show up any minute. i am a very active person and want to be able to run around with my children, same with my hubby. my friends who are in their mid to late 30's can't run around with their kids and are tired all of the time and i don't want to be like that.

some of the ppl i talk to are really insensitive and tell me how they got preggers right away. others tell me to stop trying and not stress over it. well when you want something that badly, it is REALLY hard to not think about it.

i know i'm only 27, but i really want to get pregnant like yesterday. ha. so if anyone has some suggestions, please help. and good luck to everyone on this stressful journey.

[taraken]

I completely understand what you are going through. DH and I are 28 and started trying when we were 27. We finally got pregnant last Dec after 13 months of trying. While I was never on Clomid, I understand the stress. DH had good quality and quantity...but his sperm was slow. I agree people are very insensitive...but I honestly don't think anyone can understand how hard TTC can be unless it takes a long time for them as well...especially when you wait and prepare to have a baby and are used to accomplishing goals and having schedules.

I know this is going to sound way easier said then done...but try to relax. (I used to want to scream when people said it to me.) I think we finally got pregnant because I gave up. We had fertility appointments scheduled for Jan 5 and 8...and we found out I was pregnant on Jan 2. That means I got pregnant Dec 20th... This may sound weird...but I swear it might be a reason I got preggo. I went for a 90 minute massage and had reflexology done on Dec 18th. I felt very different after the massage...truly relaxed...and then I didn't think about TTC over the holidays (well did my best not to) because I figured we were going to the specialist after the holidays. I even had wine a few times over the holidays. I don't know if it is true..but I really think we wouldn't be expecting our little boy if it weren't for that massage...

So I don't know if it will help..but pamper yourself a little. Schedule appointments for a specialist and then try to just let it happen. Good luck!!!!

[cooper4]

thank you taraken. i really am going to try and relax on this. i'm not going to take my BBT anymore. i'm going to try my hardest to not look at fun baby stuff and try to go to more yoga classes. it's so hard to not think about the ONLY thing i want in life. haha. but i'm going to try my hardest. i did however set up an appt next week for the HSG procedure, which i am REALLY not looking forward to. actually, i'm super nervous about it. better go see when that next yoga class is....

[AlexandraKate]

completely agree w/ taraken, it's like when you hear about those couples who adopted because they coudn't conceive, and that coveived so quickly after they adopted and had stopped trying. It's really all about not stressing your mind or body out you just have to "trick" yourself i guess you could say, trick yourself into thinking its no big deal. Anyways best of wishes, sweetheart

[mum2mum]

you may want to consider this http://www.mumsafari.com/for-mum-to-be. Hope it helps.