So my answer is Yes =)
Last edited by sjoquestion; 11-23-2010 at 03:22 PM.
I would not remarry for a couple of reasons. First, I've been married twice and that is enough for me. Second, there is absolutely no way in the world that I could EVER find anyone who could come close to being as amazing as my husband is. We've had our ups and downs but our marriage is solid and I have the best husband I could ever hope for.
My parents got divorced when I was 3 or 4 and my mother remarried when I was 9. Since my biological "father" was never in the picture after they split up, my stepdad has been the only man I've ever considered to be "my Dad." It took a while to adjust after she first met him, but now I can't imagine it any other way! I suppose it might be a different story if both biological parents are still in the picture after the divorce, though...
As for myself, I'm divorced and remarried as well. There were no children from my first marriage, so there was no mess as far as that's concerned. I don't plan on getting divorced again, but if it did happen, I can't necessarily rule out another marriage. It really would depend on the circumstances and how my children reacted to everything.
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I have seen both sides. My grandmother was widowed at a young age with 3 children, she never remarried. I had a 4 year old when i remarried. I think it is a very personal thing. I think re-marrying was the best thing i ever did. My husband is a very strong male role model for my son. I believe that 2 parent homes are important for just that reason. If yo have good role models such as uncles, aunts, cousins, whatever that is fine too. As long as your child is well rounded with their influences, that's what really matters. That said i know people that i disagree with very much because they introduce their kids to every person they date. That is very wrong and confusing for the child. I did not introduce my husband until we were engaged. The meeting was also not, 'look it's your new dad' but rather Mommies friend until they created a bond, then i asked if he wanted Niq to be his Dad, he said yes. I even had him "give me away at our wedding.
I would definitely not remarry if something ever happened to my husband. I have been with my husband since we were teenagers and he is just irreplaceable as far as I am concerned. I might be able to find love with someone else, but I would never find that same level of intimacy.
There are a lot of other things I would enjoy doing in my life, and I would concentrate on my children and my other interests if I found myself single again. I have a close knit, supportive family and a great circle of friends (both male and female) - so I know my children and I wouldn't find ourselves lacking meaningful relationships. I would probably just get a big furry dog and let it sleep on the bed!
i am currently going through a divorce.....it sucks. i supported my wife during her pregnancy as best i could and while she went to lvn school. we had our beautiful baby in april 22 2010 and she graduated in the fall of 2010 from lvn school and began to tell me she wasnt happy during xmas time. we got married in 2009 but have been together since 2003. starting in jan 2011 she became distant to the point she would leave the house on the weekends and not return until it was time for the baby's bath. her family does not appreciate the value of marriage, her grandmother and aunt are divorcee's her moms first child was born out of wedlock and the childs father was not involved in the childs life, her sister recently had a baby in november with the same situation. my wife and i attended therapy but she was unwilling to participate in the process, i am kinda looking for answers, how does a woman just up and decide its over after investing so much into a relationship and going to the point of getting married and finally concieving a baby after two years trying. i wasnt a perfect husband and i made major changes because i realized that wow now im a dad and i need to set an example for my child. but i cant believe that a woman would work so hard to make a family and turn around and destroy it. does anyone have any answers my wife doesnt seem to have any answers for me, i dont know wat to do anymore. i have been faithfull even after being served divorce papers, i feel that we were blessed with this child because of our committment to marraige. does any of this sound normal?
My answer to you is it sounds like your wife is seeing someone else. If she wants the divorce then deal with it maturely. Don't go bizerk like some guys do. Let her go if she wants to and try staying involved in your child's life.
I would get remarried again if I found a wise enough woman who truely understood what it takes to have a healthy marriage. That's not easy to know what it takes, and it's even more difficult to actually do what it takes.
I am beset by the ironies in my life.
My man would want me to find someone else- he tells me he'd haunt me if I chose never to love someone else again lmao!!
I have a right to happiness, to be loved. I'd still insist on having pictures of my current husband, and my future man would have to understand. Because jeff will ALWAYS be my first, true love, and my daughter's father, no matter what happens down the road. that'll never change.