would you remarry?

[Prica]

I have always known that if I'm widowed I will remarry. Probably within 3 years. It is my personality. I am not a person who does well alone. Though I will be careful about who I marry. I made an excellent choice in a first husband, and with the guidance of Jesus I will make an equally excellent choice the second time around if the second time ever comes.
However if I'm elderly when I'm widowed, my children grown. I may not marry again, I'll either move in with my child or close by. But if I'm widowed young I will remarry, I have no doubt.

[MrsBurke]

That's hard to imagine specially when your husband is still alive. I might love again as I did to him. I don't know. I'd probably be gardening and spending more time with my grandchildren if I'll have one. Or I might end dying first than him. LOL

[H.Starr]

If, god forbid, I were ever widowed, there would never be another man in my life. In my eyes, I'd still be married to my husband, so I'd be cheating on him. I realize most people don't see it that way, but I do. Most wedding vows say "Til death do us part," but since that isn't the way we view marriage, ours said "For all the days of my life." MINE, not his. If I'm still alive, we're still married and completely committed. And vice versa.

[alissa1979]

If, god forbid, I were ever widowed, there would never be another man in my life. In my eyes, I'd still be married to my husband, so I'd be cheating on him. I realize most people don't see it that way, but I do. Most wedding vows say "Til death do us part," but since that isn't the way we view marriage, ours said "For all the days of my life." MINE, not his. If I'm still alive, we're still married and completely committed. And vice versa.

I have to agree with you, Heather. I can't imagine bringing someone else into mine and my daughter's lives to take the place of her daddy. I am actually watching this situation unfold with a close friend who is getting divorced and already seriously dating someone new, and it is really hard to see the confusion her child is experiencing. My husband and I discussed this the other day, and we both agreed.

[ra11en]

If my husband died (I hate even typing that) I might remarry many years later. I really don't know. He would never be replaced, and our child(ren) would never call another man daddy. The only way I would entertain being married to someone else is if my DH were called home to God.

If we ever divorce (almost makes me laugh typing that) I would never remarry. I never saw myself being married, but my DH is my soul mate and it was the natural progression. We took our time, together for 8 years before we got married. If we ever divorced, I have no doubt I would not remarry. My vows were "till death do us part".

[luvs2rit]

I've been divorced for 10 1/2 years and have never remarried. I dated a couple guys, but they turned out to be jerks. After being divorced so long, it would be very difficult for my kids if I introduced a new person into our family now. It would take away from the time we have together. If I ever get remarried, it will be after my kids are grown.

I'm happy for those of you who were able to find a good mate and start again. Unfortunately it didn't happen for me in time. I think it's too late now.

[bluegrassmom]

I don't think I'd actively try to get remarried, but if the right guy came along, I might consider it. I pray I never have to worry about this though!

[shanmann]

I, unfortunately, have found myself a widow at age 25. My husband, the love of my life, father of our beautiful daughter, and my best friend was a Marine killed in Afghanistan 2 1/2 years ago. I would have responded to this question before the accident, much like most of you had, that no I would not remarry. My argument was that my husband has given me all the love I would ever need, and I would devote my life to raising our daughter. I have actually carried this opinion with me up until a couple of months ago, when speaking with other widows who have remarried, and I learned that you can love again, it will just take someone really special and understanding. For me, a potential husband has to be someone who is willing to be a father-figure (not her father); they have to be comfortable with me, my daughter, family, and friends talking about my husband; my husband's pictures will stay displayed in my home; and he has to not be threatened by the memory of my husband.

The love I have for my husband will never go away, nor do I want it to, and I am still devoting my life to my daughter, but that doesn't mean I can't open my heart to love again, or include someone else to share our lives with. So, now I am taking the idea of 'dating' open mindedly. Although, with a Kindergartener, going to grad school, and taking care of the house, I don't know where I am going to find the time to date or meet anyone to potentially date. I guess I will just leave that part up to God.

If there's any advice I could give, I'd recommend you all talk about this subject to your spouses and significant others. My husband said that 'if anything happened' to him, he wanted me to remarry, because he didn't want me to be lonely. Even though he said that, I fought those words, and now I feel confident that if I do remarry, my husband would support that decision and my and our daughter's happiness.

[unimom]

I am married right now and god forbid if anything happens to my sweetie pie right now, and I will still always love him, I would marry again only if the right man comes along.

[sjoquestion]

My late husband would always make jokes when we were married about "my next boyfriend" and I would get upset saying I would never be with anyone else, not just because I planned on being with him forever, but also because I would never want to go thru the drama we went thru again. When I was 8 months pregnant or so with our second son I got a call saying my husband had been in an accident. Our son was born two days later and my husband remained in a coma until he passed away on his own 100 days later. I swore the whole time I didn't want to be with anyone else. One night after work I wanted a drink and asked a coworker where I should go and instantly we just connected. It was something so natural, I mean an immediate comfort. He has been there for me and my kids. I am happy to hear my oldest put "Daddy" in front of his name. We plan on getting married. I was so scared to have my kids get close to another man, especially one that might not stick around, I didn't want them to experience another loss. But he takes care of them as if they were his own and I can see how much they love him and he loves them. And even though there has been a lot of a pain with losing their dad, I feel very blessed, very, very blessed.