Hey all. It's been a while since I last posted on here. I started a thread about 10 weeks ago that was basically me complaining that I was 24 weeks and not showing at all. Well now I'm 34 weeks and STILL NOT SHOWING. The baby is normal size for his gestation, I just didn't get bigger--I gained 0 pounds. No one knows I'm pregnant and when I tell people they ask me if it's a fall baby because they think I'm like 3-4 months. I'm having a c-section in 37 weeks so I'll only be pregnant for another 3 weeks. Has this ever happened to anyone? That you didn't show at all for your entire pregnancy? How did people react when you brought home your baby after a whole 9 months of not looking pregnant?
I didn't show my entire first pregnancy. I gained maybe 10 lbs and that mostly in my breasts. I am very slim and people would ask the annoying, "Are you eating enough?" "Is the baby healthy?" questions. As for how people reacted, everyone important knew that I was pregnant, so it wasn't a big deal. People that I didn't care to tell, would say they didn't even know I was pregnant, but it wasn't a big deal...they knew eventually. And honestly, after your baby gets here, you won't even think about it, you'll be too busy!
Good luck! Wishing you a happy and healthy delivery!
Mother to two beautiful boys!
Benjamin Alexander & Mason Joshua
I think most of what was posted in your last thread still applies. Remember, you and your close friends and family know you are pregnant. That is what really matters. Anyone who didn't know you were pregnant and sees the baby might make a quick comment, but will otherwise gush over your new little one.
If there is anyone who doesn't know you are pregnant or don't know when you are due, and it is important to you that they know - then tell them. Otherwise don't worry about it - just as Jayney said, you'll be too busy.
Just enjoy the pregnancy while it lasts. Enjoy feeling those kicks and squirms and listening to the heart beat at dr. visits. Enjoy getting the nursery ready and speculating on who the baby will look like. Enjoy being able to go shopping in 3 or 4 different stores without having to haul baby in and out of the car seat at each stop :-). Just enjoy now, and be sure to just enjoy the time you have when your baby comes.
PS - I had people not know I was pregnant, although it was because they never saw me the last few months of my pregnancy. Their reactions? Excited to see and hold my baby.
State Certified Early Childhood Special Education Teacher
New Mom as of March 2009!
Having been one who showed (even more with my second one), I would say that it would have been nice to not have the visual cue that I was pregnant. It invites well-intentioned but misguided/unwanted/plain dumb advice from people from every walk of life, who you've never met before, and who sometimes made choices that would never work for you (and sometimes shouldn't work for anyone). Plus it would have been nice to be able to do things like shave my legs or reach things that I could when I wasn't pregnant! I know it's probably "the grass is greener on the other side of the fence", but maybe these thoughts can help you reassure yourself that there are pros and cons to showing or not showing. Happy delivery!
Why are you scheduled to have a c-section at 37 weeks?
My pain levels have been too high. I was scheduled to have back surgery the week I found out I was pregnant, so that surgery had to be on hold for the past 9 months. Now I'm confined to a bed from my pain and I take a crazy amount of pain killers a day. The doctors want to get him out as soon as he's full term so that I can have my back surgery and go back on the pain medication that helps me be mobile. They're actually taking him out at 36 weeks 5 days and I can't wait!!! Oh, and I'll be having an amnio the morning of the c-section to make sure his lungs are mature.
Really? You're on pain meds? That's interesting because I had carpol tunnel something terrible my last 3 months. I could barely brush my teeth, wash my hair, take a shower, pick up a fork, pick up a pencil or anything else. I was told that I could take Ibruprofin once per week and other than that I had to deal with it.
You're not for real are you Marla? Come on, tell the truth...
She's bed ridden...no one is saying anything!
Really? Someone calls and sees that she's not showing? And people who don't know how pregnant she is are visiting her on bed rest?