TTC Question

[M.Hendrix]

Okay Ladies, I have my first question. My husband and I have talked about trying to conceive for quite a while - actually, before we were married. We originally agreed we would wait until our first wedding anniversary (June), because it is no secret that I have wanted a baby forever. Then he decided that he wanted to wait until we have signed for a house. Well now he wants to wait until we have moved into a house. Since we are trying to build, not buy an already built house this may be awhile. He keeps flip-flopping and cant make up his mind. Is this normal?

[MrsSmith7]

My husband so did this. We too decided we would wait until our 1 year wedding anniversary, which was last September. So when August rolled around my husband suddenly wanted a certain amount ($10,000) in the savings account just in case so we pushed it back and then when we reached that he wanted to wait until my parents moved closer, which will be this Summer. I finally broke down crying this past December and my husband wanted to know what was wrong and I told him that I've always wanted a baby (he knew this when he married me) and that I felt like he was always going to find a reason to push back trying. He took a week to think about it and told me that he was just scared and wanted everything to be perfect but he realized if he waited until our situation was perfect we'd probably be 60 so he said we could start trying. Maybe your husband is also trying to create the perfect environment for your new baby? I don't know, my advice would be try and talk to him about why he keeps pushing things back.

[M.Hendrix]

Thanks for the reply, its nice to know that I am not alone. Yesterday he asked me about it, and i told him I was done bringing it up and that he could come to me when he was ready. I really think that made him start to think. I know he is scared, but who isnt - its life changing. Hopefully he will come around pretty soon.