August-how you doing? Pre-labor?

[myboysmom]

I second brittnee: holy crap ELEVEN POUNDS? LOL
I can't believe that babies that big actually come out of people. But there have been several around my town that have them big, too.
Well, congratulations, definitely!! What does Kodi think of him?
My first son, Will was born at 6:15am and weighed 6lb15oz, and I always thought that was strange, too.
I'm so happy for you! I hope he's a good baby for you.

[alwaysAJ]

Yes, he was by all definitions a Holy 11 pound Crap, if you want to be precise

We had our first night home last night, I kept trying to make a post but every time I attempted, either someone called and knocked me offline (stupid phone and internet wireless run on the same channel, so if the phone is in use, it turns the internet off)... Arg. Or, someone needed something and I had to drop everything and rush to their aid. I am not sure if I mentioned earlier (I started several posts), but Dennis took this week off to help out. A lot of help he's been, he's been working the last two days. I mean, all day. He does nothing but talk on the phone in the kitchen. We went to breakfast and he got on the phone right before our food arrived. I could have shot him, he stayed on it for almost an entire hour! He didn't eat during this time, so Kodi and Jacob and I were forced to sit there through his conversation and then wait for him to eat his food when he was done. The people sitting at the booth next to us were really annoyed (who could blame them???) because Dennis doesn't just talk on the phone, he talks LOUDLY, like everyone wants to know what is going on with his business, because he's so big and important. Geeze. When we walked out, I told him he was extremely rude and nobody else gave a damn what was going down at work--he could have waited until AFTER breakfast to make that stupid call. Of course, he says it was absolutely dire that he made the call when he did. I hate the iPhone, because he checks his stupid emails and then has to call people about every stupid little detail. While we are at dinner, shopping, etc. That thing needs to be surgically removed from his head or his hands. He's either talking, or staring at it, or punching things into it.

Kodi is adjusting okay, although she's been especially full of spit and vinegar. I don't know why, because she gets all the attention she got before (Jacob pretty much sleeps all the time, so he doesn't require much maintenance right now). My favorite is when someone asks Dennis (inevitably, on the phone) how things are going, and he goes on and on about how much attention he's been able to give Kodi with his "vacation" because Mom is very busy with Jacob and can't give it all to her--but who can blame me, having a new baby and all. I'm like, What planet did he come from??? When has he spent time with his daughter? When have I not (I'm the only one paying attention to her). Hell, he went out on the trampoline with her last night (he told her they'd go outside, but then he made a phone call and stayed on it for almost 2 hours. I got angry about that, too). So, he goes out there, and I try to use the phone only to realize he's back on it... on the fucking trampoline! I see his ass out there, on the phone. God, does he ever give it a rest?????

He cannot figure out why I'm mad. I think he's rude, and irritating, and arrogant. And he can't even get the story right about me being in labor (hearing "his side" just about pisses me off more than him on the phone all the time...). I'm like, what, did you go out and get stoned or something in the parking lot so you missed what REALLY happened??? Granted, I am totally being sarcastic there about him getting stoned, I know he doesn't do that. But you get my point.

He did this crap while we were on our honeymoon in Mexico. MEXICO for Christ's Sake! We'd be out by the pool, and he'd "have to call [enter misc name here]" and then he'd sit there loudly talking on the phone for the next hour or two while I tried to read my book and ignore the angry stares from other pool patrons. I mean, is work really going to totally fall apart if he doesn't call everyone all day long every day?

Sorry to vent, but it is either I vent to you, or I see an attorney. LOL, the attorney is out of the question, so venting is the next best thing! Totally kidding about the lawyer bit, I don't want a divorce. I'm just highly annoyed right now. And my therapist costs a fortune, so I try to limit my visits

Oh crap, he went to pick up pizza for dinner, and guess what? He got back 10 minutes ago (pizza place is right around the corner) and he's out there sitting in his truck---on that Goddamned phone!

[myboysmom]

Hey, at least he wasn't on the phone during labor and delivery! (was he?) I know what you mean, though. TJ thinks that "quality time" w/ the boys is laying on the couch, sometimes napping, while they watch disney.

[alwaysAJ]

You are absolutely correct Thanks for helping me see the positive side to all of this! Fortunately, work-related crap didn't hit the fan until Tuesday morning, so he was available (sort of) Sunday and Monday to help me out. He was on the phone a lot, but it was him calling and telling everyone about our latest addition--that, I could handle.

We ended up having a huge row because I finally snapped about an hour ago (he was on the phone until well after 10pm last night, and then back on--non-stop--from 9am this morning until...well...he's still on it). I told him to just go to work, it was pointless for him to be here. I understand he had no help over the timing on this venture, but if he isn't going to help or spend any time with us, he might as well just go to work so I don't have to hear him! He thought I was mad because he was on the phone. Yes, I was highly annoyed, but it was mostly because he was/is on the phone during what is supposed to be our vacation and family time together--time he took off to help me. The way I see it, he should just go to work and get this all sorted out and leave me to piddle around the way I usually do. I've been doing everything anyway, I could just do without the constant jabbering that echoes through this house (thank you hardwood floors...).

The good news is he conceded that he isn't going to call this vacation time since he's spent the whole time working from home, so he can take more time off later. I guess that is one positive side to being the boss. But that just means NEXT vacation time will be spent on the phone doing some other business venture . I need to find out where there isn't any cell phone or satellite or internet service... lol, yeah right.


I think I just need to get out of the house for a bit, unwind. I'm not sure when I'll get to do that, since I am working around 2 different "nap" times now. But I will, by golly, I will!

[alwaysAJ]

Hey, I totally forgot to ask, has anyone heard from Lou lately???

I was lying in bed in the early am (BF-ing) and I realized she hadn't been on in awhile. Ooooh, I'm so excited for her!!!!

[brittneeskidmore]

I can 100% say that I'd be pissed off, too. I told my husband that he can't even drink a beer since I can't. I said, "You wanted a kid. You have to pay the same consequences for 9 months that I have to pay." He's been waiting (since we got married) until the day I said, "Okay, we can have a baby now." He's 4 years older, so he was ready WAY before I was.
In fact, I think if I were you that I would've hidden his phone while he was sleeping. =)

I'm determined to find out the gender of my baby BEFORE my next doctor's appointment. Despite what the doctor thinks, that does NOT make me a terrible person. =)

How is Nick doing with the breastfeeding and all? I was reading someone else's thread earlier today. She's a new mom and she said she didn't realize a newborn ate so much. She thought something was wrong with her baby. It made me realize that I have absolutely No Idea what I'm about to get myself into here... how often do you feed Nick and Jacob?

[myboysmom]

Okay, I'm a bad mom. I quit bf on Tuesday, when Nick was 3 weeks old. But it wasn't because it was too hard, persay. I was just ready to be back to "normal", and to be able to give my other 2 boys more attention. Also, it doesn't hurt that hubby can get up for at least one night feeding now! So, yes, I quit for mostly selfish reasons. And yes, they do eat quite often. Now, Nick started out at every 2 hours, and now is about every 3 hours, which I think might be quite a while for a 3 1/2 week old. Usually for that first month or so it's every 2 hours like clockwork, but every baby is different. I didn't/don't wake Nick up to feed him, and when I would try to, he wasn't going to wake up anyway! LOL
Just don't stress about it, brittnee, b/c every baby is different. You'll learn how often your baby wants to eat, or how often you need to feed him/her by listening to your body and to the baby. BTW, knowing your baby's sex does NOT make you terrible! I'm so glad I found out this time!

AJ, we just got back from a 2 day vacation with all three boys, and while I was on my phone twice, guess who was on his phone? With who? Guys from work. TJ isn't even their manager!!! Yet the guys call him, b/c he is reliable and knows pretty much what's going on with everything. I told him a few times to get off the phone, even told him when we left Thurs. morning that I would like for this to be a phone-free trip, but yeah right! Guys just don't get it. Or don't want us to think they do, I'm not sure.

[lou]

Aj- First and foremost, congratulations! I can't believe I didn't say that last night, I'm virtually braindead though so I guess it shouldn't really surprise me.
sorry but I had to laugh about your venting. I was doing the same thing two pages ago about my fiance yacking on his damn phone! He's seriously on it all the time, it drives me insane! we go out to dinner and he's on it. I try to spend quality alone time with him, phone in ear. I try to call, can't get through, he's on the phone. He's driving down the street, a stick shift no less, on the phone. This I do have a major problem with. statistically speaking it puts you on the same level as a drunk driver. I told him today that if I ever caught him driving and talking with our baby in the car I would personally insert his phone in his ass. I told him the other day I'm restricting his phone time to one hour per day and I've started confiscating it at dinner and when we try to leave the house and I don't give it back till we're done. We're late for everything because of him. he'll be on the phone walking around the house while me and the two boys are waiting for him to leave. IT MAKES ME CRAZY! Most people have this idea in their head that phone bills run high because of gossiping women, totally untrue.

What makes me even crazier though is his one OCD friend who's in his band. he seriously calls all the time. if my fiance doesn't answer his cell phone he leaves a message, and immediately calls the house phone and leaves a message if no one answers, (we usually never do, that's for people calling to book shows, telemarketers, and apparently those who are OCD), and as if that's not enough he then calls me. AHHHHH! today he called all three phones twice within 5 minutes. so thinking that this time maybe it was actually important I answered my phone. He just wanted to let us know (5 messages and I answered the 6th call) that he had some sweet corn for us. I had three hours sleep and my fiance and I were napping. OMG I could have killed him. My dad will do the same thing minus the messages. he'll just keep calling and calling until someone answers, so by the time I do answer I'm pissed off and am short with him. If I don't answer my phone it's for a reason, leave a message and I'll call you back. I HATE it when those guys do that it gets on my nerves more than my fiance being glued to the phone.

As for baby related news, I'm convinced I'll be pregnant forever. I'm so miserable right now, swollen, can't sleep, can't get comfortable, baby's in my ribs totally not fun and even the most insignificant things have become a huge ordeal, shaving legs, or even getting in and out the bath for that matter. I'm so ready to be done. I had a sonogram wed. @ 38 weeks 1 day and they said he weighs 7 lbs 10 ounces give or take a pound (I'm hoping for take). So I'm not getting induced and though they said he'd be big (not what I want to hear) he wouldn't be huge. Yeah right! if he weighs 8 lbs 10 ounces and I go 1 week past my due date he could weigh 11'10 That's huge in my book! My god Aj I don't know how you did it. Even if I go on time he'll be like ten pounds or more OUCH! I may start reconsidering my stance on a natural birth. So basically I'm just stuck like this, Huge and miserable, indefinately. Good news is they won't stop my labor at this point. I was like well duh, no one in their right mind would unless they had a death wish.

Myboysmom- you are not a bad mom. I can't imagine how difficult it must be for you having three boys, one being a new born, to care for. your older two require alot of attention and I'm sure that breastfeeding made that near impossible. In a perfect world we'd all breastfeed for a year, but then we'd also all have nannies and maids too!

Britnee- I tried that whole "I don't get to so you don't get to" thing with my fiance and it didn't work. not even close. However, I just had to keep in mind that though he does have a couple qualities that can irritate me to no end he has many more that you wouldn't find in your average guy, and that helps me to really appreciate him and cut him slack in that department. for instance, he does my laundry (better than I do too), he cooks (he's a chef), and has done pretty much all the cleaning since I've been pregnant, not to mention painting the house to get ready to be sold, and packing and moving stuff too. When I start getting jealous of him going out drinking and playing music or whatever I just think of all that and it puts things in perspective. Afterall, he's not out getting drunk off his ass, just a couple drinks, and him playing is his job, fun as it may be and after doing all of those things after putting in a 8-12 hour shift I think he deserves at least a couple of drinks. However that's not to say I don't still envy his freedom and that his body is just that, his! I think it will especially be hard though after the baby when we both are working (I'm still working even now) but then he goes off to play his gigs (sometimes 3-4 nights a week) and I'm home with the baby. granted yes he's working but it's still socializing, having a couple drinks, and just having fun, while I'm home with baby. I know I'll still get me time, the only thing is It will have to be scheduled around his gigs or I have to pay a sitter.
Basically he still has his freedom and I am anchored. that's not to say I'm not happy about having the baby ,I really am, I'm just so used to having MY life. coming and going as I please and doing what I please and now those days are gone. I know He'll be a great help and will give me My time when I need it, it's just that I'm mourning my freedom. Well, enough of this. I could type forever. LUCK and BEST WISHES to all!

[brittneeskidmore]

Well, I found out this week that it's a GIRL!
We're very excited! Of course, we thought we wanted a boy, but a girl will be just as fun!!

[peytonmom]

Hi

I am going crazy! I do not think my 2nd child wants to come out and meet her mommy and daddy. I am due tomorrow and there is no signs of labor...besides the BH. I really want to see her and can't wait. I always thought the 2nd one came early. Guess not...Anyone have ideas?