My husband is a Jr, and has made it very clear that if we have a son, he wants it to be the third. I am 100% not okay with this. I've never been a fan of the Jr/Sr thing. And here are my reasons: 1) It's too confusing 2) My husband is already referred to as "little Ed" and his dad "big Ed", what would our son be, "mini-Ed" 3) This one may be TMI, but when I use my husband's name in an intimate setting I don't want my son's face to show up in my head. So all that being said, I wondered what others' opinions would be in this situation? Am I way off track?
call him eddy
I would be honest with your husband about how you feel. I understand that he wants to have the name carried on, but suggest carrying it on in a different way like a middle name.
I had never thought of the face popping up with the name thing, but eww! That right there would be reason enough! (Especially because it's a little difficult to recover intimately after a baby anyway.)
It will make paper work a nightmare! Also when ever I see someone name their kid after themselves that I can't help but have the gut reaction that it's a little arrogant. Your baby is a whole new person who deserves their own identity. And naming your child a name that you never ever intend on actually using just seems overly complicated. Also how would that make a the next kid feel if dad doesn't care nearly so much about their name? Less important? (Not that a daughter would want to be named Ed. lol I just hate the 'if its a boy then its important enough for me to care' attitude.) Wow I'm very opinionated tonight. Could be that hubby and I can't agree on a name yet. Boy names are hard!
I totally agree with you. My honey wants to do the same. We are due in April. The way we agreed to do it is by giving our son his first name as a middle name and a different first name that way he is named after his father and there is no confusion. example Benjamin William Villanova
I also heard (or read) that if you give him his dad's first name but a different middle name and call him by the middle name. that way you both get what you want you won't picture your son whenever you mention your husbands name.
example: William Benjamin Villanova and call him Ben
Test it with your husband if he likes the idea run with it. You won't offend anyone if the name is in there somewhere and he won't be the III!