i just wanted to say that these women are right. you should be giving yourself credit and being proud. i know it's hard, my husband and i feel the pinch before the little boy came to our home, at present my ex hasnt worked for three months and only worked six months before that, and i understand about the dad is fun and i'm the worker but in the long run the kid's will know, they will respect you and honor you because children see and understand more than we give them credit for. this kid's know there life was diff. my seven yr old daughter was 1 1/2 when i met my husband and now she can verbalize things to me about understanding to a degree about my role and why i am not always the fun one or so forth. i also have all three kid's in counseling and so forth. it's not easy, i'm tired, cranky, boreddddd, lost child care because my hrs went down to part time and fc doesnt cover you part time and the day care was still charging 120. a week for the two. so i come home after work, i get off when kid's get out of school, and i am going to start college courses online. i was a child care provider and a preschool teacher and i gave that up while testing my son for the autism. find new outlets and as i said before make the system work for you. i dont mean abusing and using but what's rightfully due to the girls from the state since your a gaurdian and not the adopted parent. the state is supposed to help as long as you dont adopt. that's what our attorney told us about this child. plus they have to do a search for his biological father. the system is double edged and you'll get cut a couple of times. if this man comes back and wants this child the state will give him to the dad and that's a reality i cant deal with. so keep your head up and give it up to god
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to eriexchick not to be mean or anything do you know what it's like being put up for adoption and what those poor children go through? dmharrisn, you are doing a great thing and those children are gonna love you dearly for it. It may suck but it's a good sucky thing! Just keep doing your best just like you said the mother is a bum but your not and your doing a WONDERFUL thing. If someone in my family couldn't take care of their child and wanted me to be their guardian I would do it in an instant.
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1. Play your favorite music video at youtube
2. Get Facebook and add your friends
3. Do scrapbooking
4. Have some lemonade
5. MSN me if you want, i can chat with you
6. Visit my website www.mumsafari.com and I can post your story (if you love to write)
7. Virtual tour around the world from your computer
8. Look for your childhood photos and show them to the kids
9. Call your mummy and tell her you love her
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I'm so sorry to hear about all that you've been through. I know it's easier said than done but you should really focus on the positive. You're being so strong for those kids and I'm sure great things will come your way. In the mean time, even though you're swamped and bored, I hope you can get 5 mins a day to escape, breathe, dance, laugh or do anything you want to do for yourself.
man I was going to come in here and slam you for that title...but reading the situation, that is one situation where you could feel that way and feel justified!
Tie a knot & hang on, if you didn't want to do it you wouldn't of started! I've been there, taking care of family that aren't mine! It's hard but love gets you thru, and those kids after the crying ect.will say love ya~ However you & your Husband need to be on the same page!
Ya work is hard but dealing with kids all day is harder (work is like a break compared to what your going thru)..
He needs to do more, and yes if you had custody it would make things easier, because you need more control.
No matter how much he loves those kids it's not fair to them or you to have them being bounced around..
He needs to take parenting classes or stay with you aswell to get down your routine.
I think that if you had a break, your ways of having fun would be funner..
And food coloring is great too.. we used to have green potatoes & blue milk & well anything you can change a color do it! watch them smile & show them there teeth.. Smiles make the day great!
look at the long pic, like when these kids are older & they say thank you for being there & now I'm going to do this with my kids...Your goin to be the one they come back too!
life is hard I get it!