Terrible Two's!!!

[sallycuellar]

I have 3 children; 13, 10 and now a 2 yr. old. We all prayed for this little one and boy did we get him! This little guy is definitely a handful! My other 2 children were nothing like this! Like the other stories I've heard my little one slaps you in the face and pulls your hair and throws cars at you! Always aiming for the face! I don't want to spank him at this early age but my husband & I have because he defineltly gets out of control. What do you recommend?

[kdsmama]

try time outs. my daughter is 20 months and we've been doing time outs cuz she would hit kick throw things and bully other kids so we started doing time outs a couple of months ago and now she's much better about it. we assigned a corner and we give her a warning if she doesn't listen she goes intotime out for 90 seconds. if she gets up the clock restarts and then whn she's done she has to say sorry and if she threw something she has to o pick it up and put it where it goes. basically we stole the idea off the tv sho super nanny. but it works

[kaiya23]

It's been posted elsewhere, but each kid is going to need a different form of discipline. He may respond to spanking, or time outs, or taking away toys, or even sticker charts for good behavior that add up to some sort of treat. You need to figure out what will work best with him.

My brother from about that age was always out of control, bouncing everywhere, doing whatever he thought he could get a kick out of, without thought for consequences or care for others. He still is that way in some form at the age of 22. My parents were spankers, and it had worked for me and my other brother. But this child was different, and spanking just made him more motivated to act out. It got to the point where my mother spanked him bare bottom with a large metal cooking spoon b/c she had reached the point of frustration where he just wouldn't stop and she had reached her wits end. After he entered school and the teachers saw the same thing he went under some evaluations and met criteria for ADHD in the top percentile. While the medication did help quite a bit, my parents had to readjust their parenting techniques and discipline for him to keep their life sane.

Now, I'm NOT saying that what's going on with your son. In fact, I think that they apply that diagnosis in cases where it's just not needed. It's also too early to worry about that type of evaluation, and it may be just a boys will be boys thing that he will grow out of, but you may look into the techniques recommended for dealing with children with ADHD because there will be years of research on managing similar behavior.

[jenn_0629]

My neice just hit her terrible two's...Wow..they sure are terrible! She bites, hits, screams, throws things...anything to get a rise out of anyone. When I am with her, I look her right in the face and say, "No, Lacey..That is bad. We don't ____"
And she usually starts crying and hugs me, or goes in and gives me a million kisses. I don't know how well the method works for my sister..but it works at my house.

[MommaC]

I highly recommend Jo Frost's (Supernanny) "How to Get the Best from your Children". It's a quick and easy read and is organized by age and stage.

[doudou]

I agree. I like how Jo Frost(the SPRNANNY) teached me to be calm whenever I was trying to discipline my daughter(2 1/2). children act up because either they are bored, or they are asking for your attention.
at my daughter's daycare center, they are not doing time out, but whenever there was a problem with a child, they would redirect that child's attention to a different activity or area, and tell him/her that it was not acceptable to ____. if the child continues, they will take him/her to the director's office and cool off.
definitely need to make them apologize. at 2year old, my daughter understood "this is the last time" and "I promise", with constant reminding of course.

[catadmin]

Your message says you have a 10 and a 13 year old as well. These age groups think baby is so cute when parents bring them home and possiblity did not help correct inappropriate behavior as it grew. Now a days I'll bet that if baby is in their way, I'm sure, they will yell a long drawn out 'Mommmmmmmmmmmm'.

So I suspect the boys behavior has grown to this as it has not be corrected earlier because many people in the household are not on the same page. Like a puppy that chews on a shoe (he's so cute) will become a dog that tears up the house.

The behavior can be modified by putting him back to bed. Tell him he's in bed because it looks like he didn't get enough sleep as his behavior is not good and he's hurting people. If he gets up, put him back down. Repeat, repeat and repeat. He will fall asleep if he's left quite long enough. When he wakes, he will be calmer.

When he does it again, repeat the 'go back to bed' routine. Later all you will have to do is warn him that he may need more sleep if he doesn't settle down.