17 and pregnant

[dreamit]

First off CONGRATULATIONS!!! Then onto my advice it would have to be for you to get out of that relationship. I got pregnant when I was 19 and like you my friends stopped talking to me. I felt like my boyfriend was the only person that I could talk to, that would support me. I was wrong, he would emotionally and physically abuse me. Unfortunately I am still with him with 3 kids. It gets more difficult to get out of the relationship the more you stay in. He wont change please dont think he will. I hope you find this out sooner than I did. I dont want you looking back hoping that you would have gotten out sooner. Dont start changing your view of things. The more I am with him the more I wonder, is this abuse, do I deserve it. But no, no one does! Its abuse if he insults you, hits, shoves, threatens you in any way. Please get out, do it for you and the baby. I know it will be difficult but there is support. Go to government agencies they can provide you with help and places to go. If you are in school you can get childcare. Just please look into finding a safe place for you two. You can email anytime. I will help you find places to get you help. Email me at dreamit08@yahoo.com Please take care I send my best to you and your child!

[coley_wickiser]

ya know..... im reading all these posts. and im kinda thinking is there ever going to be a guy that will ever grow up adn support his pregnat girlfirend?. im 16 and im due august 20. and my boyfriend pretty much just bailed when he was expected to start paying for stuff. its like he doesnt get it. and it sucks. me and my parents have done nothing wrong and they have treated him like he was there own son. his pride is getting in the way of us being together and rasing the baby. and i dont know what to do.

[c909907]

I turned on my PM, in case you would like to talk privately. I'm sorry for what you are going through. My oldest sister got pregnant when she was 17. She's 29 now, with four beautiful kids and a great husband. Don't worry, it will all work out. What are you doing to prepare for the baby? Do you know the sex yet?

[azielsmommy7210]

Don't stress so much..
I had my first child at 16 and let me tellu it was hard.. loosing "friends" is part of growing up.... that's when u realize who is going to b there for you and who isn't. When I first moved in with my babys dad it was hard n horrible.... he would rather be hanging out with his friends then looking for a job to support me and his kid... we had a lot of arguments. I would always move back in with my mom and would promise myself not to go back but eventually I would... its hard asa teen mom but if u focus on the important things like your schooling your self and u baby u can make it through..I made through high school and graduated with my class. And yess I am back wiht my babys dad and he has changed... so if your bf is worth being with and he wants to own up to his responsibility he will come around and honeslty arguments are always part of any relationship... just keep your head up and don't stress so much its not good for your baby..just ignore him and think of something else why you to argue.. it works