I just started a post called am I being irrational and basically it's about a disagreement between my fiance and I about whether or not he should be booking shows so close to my due date. I'm just curious to know from everyone who's experienced the birthing process, where was your husband/boyfriend/fiance when it all started?
I'm not sure what you mean by 'shows'. But, I can tell you that my husband is in a band. I was due October 24. The whole band agreed to not book any shows for all of October, November and December. My husband not only wanted to be completely available (other than work hours of course) when the time came AND he was unwilling to play out for the first 2 months of our son's life. That said, my husband does not make ANY money playing out. The band actually costs us money. So, it's more of a hobby for him. If he made money doing it I would be happy with not doing shows the two weeks around my due date.
To answer your question, I was induced on October 17 and my husband was right there with me.
I suppose I should have been a little more specific. by shows I mean that he is a paid musician. I would be happy if he didn't book anything for two weeks around my due date. he wants to book a gig sep. 1st and I'm due august 26th though. I'm so not comfortable with that cause it's very hard to get hold of him when he plays.
Another thing to think about is what if your late? I was 10 days over when they decided to induce me;it was definitely not planned that way.As for where my fiancee was well,he own his own business so,him being available wasn't an issue.
Good Luck!I hope it works out but I would definitely tell your fiancee he shouldn't book gigs so close!
my hubby was sitting right next to me on the couch and we were watching a movie with his family! if your wondering yes we had to stop watching the movie and had to finish it weeks later! but as i said in your other post i think he should be there and he shouldn't want to book any shows! It was nice to be able to see the look on my hubby's face when i told him it was time! then i had lots of help getting all my stuff and me in the car!
We were at his work's christmas party. We left and he took me to the hospital. it was a Thrusday and they told me I wasn't far enough a long so they sent me home and I ended up being induced Saturday by my doctor's orders. My husband was with me the whole time, the doctor's appointment and even during the hospital stay. I usually only went to the appointments alone but as I got closer to my due date he would tell his work he had to leave to be with me.
By the way I think it's rude of him to book shows around your due date.
Last edited by Jordyn; 05-29-2008 at 05:42 PM.
For my first, my husband was home with me. For my second, my water broke and I had to call him at work. It took a couple of tries because he works around machinery and can't always hear his phone ring. For us, my husband and I worked right up until both of our babies were born and my husband only took a couple of days off with me. It was a matter of financial decision. We are expecting our third in September, and I expect the same thing to happen. I would love to have him home, but we need the income. I think it is all a matter of circumstance and personal preference. The likelyhood of you going into labor during the few hours he's at the gig is pretty slim, but I understand you wanting him to be 100% available to you, too.
My husband was in the shower when my water broke. He came home from work early to run fire calls (we had a tornado that day). I was lucky he was home, our daughter wasn't due for another 5.5 weeks. We had planned around her due date that he would stay in town and send his other crews out of town. He owns his own business so he's able to be pretty flexible. I don't think wanting your fiance avaialable is being irrational. You shouldn't have to stress about getting ahold of daddy when your in labor. If he absolutely has to book for days when you may go into labor, does he have a back up person that could take his place? I don't know a lot about musicians, but hey...it's a thought! Good luck!
My husband was in the hospital with me when it happened.. they induced me the day before i was due (still not sure why to this day) and i woke up on my due date and at 645 am my water broke. he called his work and said my wife's water just broke, and they said ok dont come back in until your paternity leave is up!
i hope all works out well for you!
Mine was right there with me the whole way through. I made him go to each and every doctors appointment with me and so much more. It had been a while since we had been in baby land with our oldest. So we both needed to be reintroduced to it all.