My husband and I just started TTC. I really don't want to say anything to family/friends until we are actually pregnant. Don't really know why, just how I feel. Anyways, I was wondering how to handle the holidays and not having any drinks. While I'm not a big drinker to begin with, my MIL usually prepares something she knows I like. I really don't know how to tell her I don't want a drink without tell her we're trying. Any ideas?
First of all, congrats on TTC!
Well, since you aren't actually pregnant yet, if someone does ask you if you are, you can honestly say no! Or yest to the drink for that matter. I think it is more tough when you are trying to keep the actual pregnancy under wraps (hehe, Christmas pun). Anyways, if you are comfortable with little white lies, you can tell them that you have a slightly upset stomach and just don't feel like it. Or you could accept something like a memosa (sp?) the champagne with oj and either dispose of the glass and refill with oj when no one is looking or do something similar with another mixed drink. Or you could just be honest (in a way) and just say that it doesn't appeal to you right now.
As a person who doesn't drink much either, when my DH and I were TTC # 2 (which we didn't tell anyone we were doing) I just politely turned down any drinks. No one thought anything of it since I am not a drinker anyways. I am known that if I have 2 drinks I DO NOT DRIVE so I claimed I was my DH's DD sometimes too.
Last edited by Angelsrose12; 12-22-2009 at 01:41 PM. Reason: spelling errors, typed late at night!
TeachErie- Angeslrose12 had some really good ideas! My DH & I have been TTC for almost two years now, so we have gone through quite a few celebrations/holidays with TTC in mind. My doctor actually encouraged us to have some "fun nights" (aka relaxing with some drinks) to maybe help the TTC process. If you are not pregnant, or even a few weeks along it will not hurt the baby to have a drink or two..especially if you don't know! I am not a big drinker myself, so it wasn't odd to anyone that I would refuse a drink! No one in our family knows we are TTC either! However if you just don't feel comfortable doing that then just do one of Angelrose12 suggestions! Good Luck!
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Congrats on TTC! I'm in the same boat as you. Just starting trying this month and worried about drinking during the holidays or even after at events. I am a big drinker in my circle of friends and my friends can be nosy sometimes. I hate lying, but I don't want everyone knowing we are trying b/c then you get the 'Are you pregnant?' everytime you see them. I don't worry so much about a drink here or there, but my husband does. I agree with what APEMBERTON said that you should 'have some fun' and let loose a bit with TTC. Good luck with everything and thanks for posting!
Thanks for all the ideas! The holidays went off without any problems. I'll keep all this in mind for the next gathering!