When Should We Be Concerned?

[Mrs.Lauren]

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for almost three months now, June will be the three month mark. My friend said that her OB/GYN told her that if after three months of trying, nothing happens, to come in to assess the situation.

Is this true? We are not actively trying (with temps & charting), we are currently taking the wait and see approach and not using precautions. My husband isn't concerned, but I am slowly getting depressed with every single period that comes.

Advice is always appreciated.

[jenn_0629]

Three months seems like a long time, but honestly, it isn't. I have known people that have tried for 6 to 9 to 12+ months. It happened for them, it just took a little while. Perhaps you should get an ovulation kit to help to see when you are most fertile.

[ra11en]

I'm surprised to hear that a dr advised an assessment after only 3 months. My dr said 12mo was the point that he would want to assess the situation. We tried for about 9mo the first pregnancy, and it isn't uncommon to go even longer than that. Knowing your ovulation cycle can have a huge impact and help you conceive faster, but putting too much pressure on yourselves can have a negative effect.

3 months isn't that long to be trying by any means. And usually its faster the next go around. 9 months the first attempt, but only 1 week the second attempt.

[Amber987]

I went to my OB/GYN last month and I told him that I was trying to get pregnant he prescribed me 12 monthes of prenatal vitamins and told me to be patient because only 20% of women conceive in the first 6 monthes of trying and 90% conceive after the first 12 monthes of trying. So be patient it may seem like forever but it will happen. Are you currently taking any prenantal vitamins? My doctor recommended them. If you dont get pregnant after the first 12 months than I would worry. Just have fun trying. I know it hard but it will eventually happen. I had a blog on here with the same problem and a lot of women on here gave me great advice and it really helped. Just enjoy trying to have the baby while you can because once you have a baby you won't have anytime too. Wishing you Luck.

[Riverwoods]

My husband and I tried to conceive for 5 years. During this time, we did IUI, just clomid and some charting. I would not be concerned about not becoming pregnant for 12 months, it just takes time.

I recently found out that I am pregnant--due January 10th! We did not do any type of infertility treatment and were not trying. You always here that--stop trying and it will happen

The one thing I did do that was different is I started getting massages 2 times per month. This was for a back problem, but I believe that in addition to the Hand of God stepping in, that this truly helped. Whether it got bad toxins out of my body, caused me to truly relax or just helped my body function better I am not sure. But truly I believe it had an impact. I say that because after 34 years of living, my fingernails started to grow long and strong--the FIRST time in my life. I had said to myself, "I wonder what else it is doing to get my body working well?" And tad-da--a baby on the way! It's not a cure all, but if after time you can't get pregnant, it can't hurt and it sure is nice!

[emersonblue]

I agree that after 3 months of trying seems a little soon for tests. I tried for 1 year before I was tested and started any medication. One word of advice is not to purchase an ovulation kit. I have read and heard many stories of them been a total waste of time. Just keep your head up and keep trying! It's too early to jump to conclusions yet!

[kartman]

The first lessons of parenting (learning to be patient) probably start with TTC ... lol. Three months isn't long.
The researchers found that, if a couple has “regular” sex (defined as 2 to 3 times a week, when a couple is in their 20s), 25 to 30 percent conceived on the day before ovulation. Since the six fertile days are widely distributed across the menstrual cycle, if you pay no attention to when you're fertile, you'll probably still be close to maximizing your chances.
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[kartman]

Talking about time ... 80% of women TTC conceive in 6 months and 97% of couples TTC make it in the 1st year. This is with average healthy couples. The figure stands about 57% at the end of 3 months. So don't loose hope.
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[NancyDave]

GO NATURAL AND STOP WORRYING!

I'm also surprised that your doctor told you to come back in 3 months. Well then again not everybody gets pregnant overnight. I had trouble becoming pregnant off the hook as well. But I quit certain 'unhealthy' habits I had and conceived before I knew it. I think it's pretty important to go all natural. I mean going natural can't hurt, can it?

As a lot of people above said, 3 months is nothing! I have friends that got pregnant after 2 years of trying with no infertility treatment. They were stubborn on taking any kind of treatments and it ultimately worked.

It is also important not to stress out about it. The more you stress, the more stress hormones you secret and the more stress it causes on your reproductive system in turn.

[sarajeanie06]

I married my best friend when I was 18. We had dated for several years before that. At 19 years old, we were able to save money, pay off our cars and credit cards, and buy a house. We both have great jobs and decided we wanted children. I started taking prenatal vitamins 3 months before I went off the Pill because I figured that since we were both young and healthy that we would conceive right away. Everyone I've talked to told us to wait or we were "too young" (can't even begin to tell you how sick I am of hearing that). Well here we are, a year and a half later, and I find out my FSH was low and I haven't been ovulating. I had a painful HSG done and my tubes are fine. Now hubby has to give a "sample" and I have to get blood work done every other week. I feel like the last year and a half was a waste and I wish I had seen my OBGYN sooner. Do not wait if you have ANY doubts! I am only 21 years old and I have to start Clomid in a month so wish me luck!