Need Advice Regarding Miscarriage

[DeeA]

I am 12 weeks pregnant with a blighted ovum (no fetus). Tuesday I started to have brown stringy discharge. Wednesday I had nothing. Thursday I had bright red bleeding for about an hour & then it promptly ceased. Emotionally I'm fine because there is no baby involved. Physically, I want my body back. It may sound harsh but I really need this to be done. I would rather not have a D&C. Does my progress sound normal. How long does this take? Any thoughts welcome. Thanks for your time.

[kare.bear]

My miscarriage was a bit different - I was diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy that we have been able to treat with medicine rather than surgery. I am four weeks out from my first (of two) treatments and my body is STILL not back to normal. I didn't start bleeding heavily until about week 3, although I did have stringy discharge on and off until then. The heavy bleeding is a good sign as it indicates the uterus is shedding the thick lining developed during a pregnancy.

Your progress sounds very normal to me. Give your body at least the same period of time to recover as from any pregnancy - 4 to 6 weeks before you resume normal activity. I know you didn't give birth, but your hormones are still returning to pre-pregnancy levels, your uterus still has to shed the lining and return to pre-pregnancy size (yes, it already started to stretch), your body has to release the extra blood/fluid it's been developing in order to support a child, etc.

I understand how much you just want it all back to normal...In fact, I think I said something to that affect to my husband this a.m., but you need to be patient with yourself and cut yourself some slack. This is a process that can't be rushed!

[DeeA]

Thanks so much for your encouraging words. My bodies ambivilence to release this has been maddening. The doctor wanted to give me an abortogenic drug to speed up the process. I would rather nature take it's course. I have an appointment for another sonogram on Monday. I'm hoping I'll have made progress by then. Thanks again....