My son will be 4 this April, and me and his mother don't get along at all. Every time I visit him, he tells me he wants to live with me, and that he doesn't like his mom, or her boyfriend. Is that normal? I don't understand what he's thinking, but it seems to me that he shouldn't dislike them. I try to explain to him but i don't know if he understands.
That must be very hard for you but I think you are talking to the wrong people.
It's too bad you don't get along with his mom, but I think you need to try to sit down with her and have a calm discussion about it. After all, it's not about you guys, it's about your son. If this doesn't work, talk to his pediatrician for advice.
Most of all, keep talking to your son. Maybe he just needs reassurance that everything will be alright. It would be best if you and his mom could reassure him together, so really try to be the bigger person, for your son's sake, and try to get along with her.
I think it's important to sit down with your son and just listen to him. If he tells you that he doesn't like his mom and her boyfriend ask why. Most likely the reason he tells you that he doesn't like them is because he is probably missing you. My son is 3 and he thinks his dad is better than Batman! I can be his buddy during the day but when daddy comes home I'm chop liver! And I'm ok with that because I know that he wants to be just like his daddy! I hope things get easier for all of you!!