well i'm having a boy, due april 7. been through a lot this pregnancy, from family fueeds to amnios. i feel the pressure of making sure i am prepared very strongly now. i'm eager to start my 'nesting' process. BUT i've gott my boyfriend's brother, his girlfriend, their daughter, and one of my boyfriend's buddies living in our 2 bedroom home. we already have as rambunctiousd pit bull, and my boyfriend's 4 year old daughter too. justt being at my house stresses me out. i've been sleeping on my mom/sister's couch for a while now to escape. my 'house guests' don't live similar lifestyles as me and my bf do, and since he invited them, half my dishes have been broken, all of our spoons are buried in the yard by their daughter, and i can't seem to find any of my bathroom hand towels. i know it sounds bizarre. i also keep finding personal items taken from their places and never returning, my bf socks are always in their laundry, and they don't believe in cleaning anything! it's tearing our relationship apart. it's hard for me to ask my bf to kick his brother out, but i ask anyway. they don't work, and haven't tried to find any work, or alternate housing. not to mention.... they pay nothing. i can't afford to just up and leave, especially this far along, but i'm stressing out, crying non-stop, and i'm scared of any bad side effects. the clock won't stopo no matter how much i pray. what do i do now?
The best thing to do is to sit down with your BF and tell him straight up that this arrangement is not working for you and the baby. He might not like what you have to say but it needs to be said. As for your things going mising you could do what my hubby did when his sister moved in...he put a new knob on our bedroom door that can lock. He did that because she had stolen from him before. After you talk with your man and if he agrees that something must be done then have a sit down with the others and tell it to 'em straight up: they need jobs or to get the hell out. A 2 bedroom home with 6 people and one on the way is not healthy either. Also and just what I would personally do, make them pay for all the damages done to the home since they've been there...especially dishes I hate having dishes broken. If worse comes to worse you may have to move out for a while to make him see that you mean business, you and your baby are more important than the friend and the brother being there, and if he can't see that then leave for a week or two. That's about all I can say.