So I just watched Ice Age 3 and I couldn't get over how cute it was that the daddy mammoth was freaking out over every kick and totally in love with the baby before she was born. My husband wasn't like that and he still has the new parent gitters more than a year later. What did your significant others do?
My husband went into list making mode and made a list of every single thing that the baby would need. When i got really big you could actually see where the baby was kicking because my stomach would actually move on its own and he was very excited about that but he didn't really do anything too differently or treat me different. He changed a lot more after our son was born, it's like he became more gentle once he saw the baby.
He was very supportive both times. He was there for me when I had to stay in the hospital twice for a recurring kidney infection, he listened to me complain about my aches, pains, and stress, he went to the ultrasounds, he played guitar so we could watch the baby “dance”. And he always told me how beautiful I was. Sigh. Makes me realize how lucky I am. Sure we had some rough days, but he stood by me through it all.
Shannon, mom to Sophia (6) and Ian (2) & wife to Eric
He was an angel! He was more excited than me, I think!
He read 'What to expect when you're expecting' about five times. I never read it, I could just ask him a question and he knew!
He went to every single dr appt with me, even the pointless ones.
For our anniversary and birthday while I was pregnant, all he wanted was stuff for the baby.
He carried the ultrasound pictures with him everywhere, and showed everyone he saw.
There is not a single picture of the two of us from my pregnancy where his hand isn't on my belly. He was SO overprotective. It was cute, but aggravating sometimes! He wouldn't let me do laundry, he did all of it. He wouldn't let me carry in groceries. He didn't even want me to drive myself! He'd call every morning to remind me to take all my pills.
When I started to get huge, he was so helpful! He rubbed my back and feet every night, he put my shoes on for me, picked up things I dropped, made all the late night cravings runs with no complaints.
He was 195% supportive and helpful. I could have never done it without him!
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My husband wasn't very supportive during either pregnancy. He actually wasn't around at all when I was pregnant with our daughter. He showed up a week before she was born and asked if he could be a part of our lives. He tried to be a little more supportive when I was pregnant with our son. He went to the ultrasound with me, but didn't go to any other appointments. He picked out our son's name. And he was actually there when our son was born, even though he slept through most of it. He wasn't there at all when our daughter was born, he showed up a couple hours after.
He's a great dad though. Once our daughter was born he jumped right in. Never complained about changing diapers, waking up in the middle of the night to feed her, or anything else. He's just as great with our son. He handles the early mornings, our son wakes up everyday at 4am, most days. Like another mom said, the change seemed to come after the baby was born.
Life is an adventure, I share every day with my two beautiful children.
My hubs was not like that. When we found out we were pregnant (both times) he smiled real huge, and was clearly happy. But he doesn't sit around the belly waiting for a kick or anything. And he will occasionally offer a foot massage. But there is no doubt how head over heels for the girls he is. He's the best Dad ever, he just has a hard time with pregnancy. Probably because it isn't real enough for him. But the minute the baby is born- he is doting. He does get stressed- even three years later- over what to do with them sometimes, but so do I!
Mom of twin girls, age 3, and a new baby boy born in January!
i love my husband so much but really... we didn't find out i was pregnant until i was already 6 months. i was still having my periods and cramping terriblly and had not gained any weight (i was 5'6 and 125lbs still at the time). and it took him awhile to warm up to the idea because he didn't really want kids to begin with. and the last two months he would play with "pokey" and was kinda happy about the idea but since we are both still in college he still isnt the happiest. and while i was pregnant he wasnt the most helpful he would ask me to massage his feet and do lots of other things for him and he was still expecting sex all the time. but right at the last week he really started helping me more and he was there with me the whole hospital visit and helped me through everything and stayed with me the whole time. but after we got home he kinda lost that helpfulness and wont get up with me at night and doesnt help as much as he could. i think he is just intimidated by the whole situation though. but i love him and he loves me and Sebastian. so i dont mind
My husband has his good days and bad days. At the beginning he didn't talk about it at all and neither did I. He wasn't (and still really isn't) ready for kids. We have had a lot of downs and ups during this pregnancy. He has a few times kissed the belly, sung to the baby and "earthquaked" the baby but other than that he's not really into it. He goes to every ultrasound. I don't make him go to the Dr appointments since I go from work and we live 30 min away from the Dr.
He has started helping me more with the cleaning around the house now that I am much bigger. Helps me off the couch when I ask. Other than that he doesn't really talk about the baby or anything. He has felt him/her kick 1 time and said it creeped him out. So he hasn't felt the baby move anymore eventhough she/he is moving ALL the time. I came home from the shower and he didn't, and as far as I know still hasn't, looked at anything we got from the shower.
I am hoping that once the baby is actually here that will change. I know he will be more attentive to the baby then. I just wish he was more attentive and affectionate to me now. I really don't want him to miss out on this since we talked about only having 1 child. I don't want him to have any regrets about missing it. But I guess that's not my choice.
My husband was excited and was the one who actually said he was ready for kids. I wasn't sure he really knew what he was in for and I was right. As if being a new parent wasn't nerve racking enough for him, our son had colic and cried all the time except for when he was nursing. It was tough because he wouldn't even hold our son to let me go to the bathroom. I didn't sleep in our bed for the first month because our son wouldn't sleep and I just cried all the time. It was very hard because he was so afraid of the screamball we had for a son. I felt like a single mom. I have a huge amount of respect for them! He isn't as involved with our son as I would like him too be but he has come a long way. He works very hard and helps out in every other way that I'm ok with it!
He definitely wasn't as in to it as I would've liked. He felt her move when I'd ask him to and thought it was kind of cool, but wasn't amazed at every little thing like I was. He didn't read any books or rub my feet, but he did not complain about changing the cat litter for me and wouldn't let me carry anything even mildly heavy and helped around the house as much as he could. He also listened to me ramble on and on about how this week she was developing ears, this week she could open her eyes, etc. He did get a little teary eyed when we found out we were having a girl, and he's been pretty great since she was born. The first few weeks were hard since she was breastfed, but he'd get up in the middle of the night if I asked.
Having a child is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside of your body - Elizabeth Stone