should I have 4

[jablljoynts]

Here is my dilemma, My husband an I have 3 wonderful kids ages 13,11 and 8. I am 33 and he is 39. I want to have another one but he is happy with where our family is now. How do I move on from wanting another or how do I try and talk to him about having another. This is causing very quiet times in our household. All the kids are on board with another. What do I do?

[Newmama22]

Hi, I think the best thing to do would be to talk it over with the whole family, kids included, and see what the opinions are. You've got three kids and it sounds like you're happy with the way things are, but you really can't force your hubby to have another child. Granted you are the one doing the carrying but it's his decision to, along with the kids' a bit too. I mean they have no direct control over whether or not you guys do try to concieve but I know from experience it's nice just to have your opinion considered. Also ask your hubby what his reasons are for not wanting another child..is it financial? Age? Also let him know that you are obviously happy with things the way they are but you think there is room for one more. Good luck hope this helps a bit.