elective c-section v. vaginal

[byronsmom]

Byron was a wk late, I was given a choice c-section or viginal. Inwent through 18 & half hrs of hell to have him natrually. I was also releashednthe next day compared to a wk in the hospital.

Theres no way in hell I'd ever elect to have c-section. 18 hrs of hell and I could walk around just fine the next day, compared to the hell of pain from a c-section. And yes I do know what that pian is like I have nice scar about the length of a c-section, where my dr removed my right ovary and tube.

[marlalovesmaury]

I'm still wondering what "little pink bubble" means. Are you insinuating that I'm like Glinda the good witch? She lived in a pink bubble.

[H.Starr]

No, I'm saying you're an immature childish moron who seems to live in a little fantasy land where the whole world revolves around them. You were probably a spoiled little brat your whole life, and maybe still are. So you have a warped view of life and the world, because you've never actually lived in the real world before.
You're far from a good anything, though the witch part might only be off by one letter.

[marlalovesmaury]

What is the real world? To you, the real world might be waking up, sending your children to daycare, working all day, coming home at 6 pm every night, then making a family dinner. To me it's mommy and me yoga, charity work, and lunching at fancy restaurants with my friends. Why is my world any less real than yours? I'm not immature or childish, I can promise you that. I simply have strong opinions just like you do. I'm well educated and devoted to my family, just like I'm sure you are. My view isn't warped because it's different from yours. It's just that--different. I understand that we'll never get along, maybe because we're from such different worlds. I can accept that. Let's not take this any further, it's really ridiculous. I'm sorry for being sarcastic and I'll stop now. My goal of this thread was not to start a fight or be argumentative, but it turned into that. I was just looking for some real experiences. So I'll stop now, but please stop also. I'm sure that, as a smart person, you can appreciate what I'm saying. I hope that in the future our posts won't be influenced by this exchange.

[kare.bear]

Marla: If you believe that elective (i.e. non-medically necessary) c-sections are safer for the baby, then you are misinformed. The contractions during the labor process actually assist in pushing the amniotic fluid out of the baby's lungs. There is a risk to a child born by C-section that they experience breathing difficulties/emergencies. That is why a responsible doctor will only assign a c-section for a medically necessary reason.

If you have decided to have a c-section because it is more convenient to you and you feel it fits your birth story better, fine...But I want to ensure that anyone reading this thread doesn't erroneously believe that deciding on an elective C-section is in the best interest of their child.

I had a c-section for my first because she presented as a breech and they were unable to move her. But I will be attempting vaginal for my second as there is an increased risk for mothers who want multiple children and chose multiple C-sections. I want to give as much of an opportunity for all my future children by at least attempting a vaginal birth.

And, you ARE behaving as a caricature in the literary sense (they are SO much more than a drawing, in fact Shakespeare used them quite effectively). "A caricature is a description of a person using exaggeration of some characteristics and oversimplification of others. Caricatures can be insulting or complimentary and can serve a political purpose or be drawn [written] solely for entertainment." (wikipedia)

Obviously, you are doing this solely for your entertainment.

[marlalovesmaury]

kare.bear...we're done with this. Please stop.

[H.Starr]

What is the real world? To you, the real world might be waking up, sending your children to daycare, working all day, coming home at 6 pm every night, then making a family dinner.

Actually, I'm a stay at home mom.

To me it's mommy and me yoga, charity work, and lunching at fancy restaurants with my friends.

Spoiled little princess brat, like I said.

I'm not immature or childish, I can promise you that.

Have you ever read a single one of your own posts??? You talk/act just like my 12 year old sister. You two could go to the same junior high, as far as I can tell.

I understand that we'll never get along, maybe because we're from such different worlds.

What do you know about what kind of world I come from? I know you like to THINK you're better or more special than everyone else, but in reality, you're not. Sorry to burst your bubble, yet again.

I hope that in the future our posts won't be influenced by this exchange.

Nope, I thought you were an idiot before this thread, don't worry. It hasn't changed my opinion.

[charliesmommy]

kare.bear~Thank you for clearing up the real meaning of caricature for the well educated Marla.

Marla, you speak out of turn often. Your reasons for electing to have a c-section are so convoluted it's scary to think that you will soon have a child.

[Lindsey73]

Everyone has an opinion. I dont know what you know, so I thought Id let you know just in case, that c-section is major surgery. I can't believe how people are treating each other. Look, if someone asks for advice they are going to get it, sometimes even some they didn't want. But do we have to get so offended and be so rude to each other? If you dont like the advice, dont look at it. And if other people are offended because she doesnt like your advice, who cares? Its her life and her body. She can do what she wants. But no one should be offended and rude on EITHER end.

[Mom^2]

Because almost every post on here is stating how horrible c-sections are I'm going to give a couple facts about c-sections based on my experience.
Unless you have severe complications (rare) you will not spend a week in the hospital. For a c-sections you get 3-4 days as opposed to a vaginal delivery which is 1-2 days. Depending on how well you handle pain, you can get up and move around within 1-2 hours after a c-section (I did both times) and you don't have to take pain medication (I didn't after the first but did ater the second because it hurt more). Also many women are given pain medication following a vaginal delivery it all depends on you & your body. Your milk will come in following a c-section in the same amount of time as it takes a woman who has had a vaginal deliery. You can pick up your baby, you are told not to lift more than the weight of the baby. You don't necessarly feel everything during a c-section, with my first I felt nothing, with the second I just felt pressure, the release of pressure when they took him out and some slight tugging when they were putting everything back together (it did not hurt). While you are being closed up you get to see, touch & bond with your baby. I've heard some hospitals will let you breastfeed in the O.R., but my hospital didn't allow that, still I breastfed my babies within an hour after birth when I was in my room (which is the time frame most research says babies should be breastfed in). When the doctors are done fixing you up the baby goes to the nursary and you go to recovery. Most people stay in recovery for about an hour, which is the same amout of time the baby is kept in the nursary following either a vaginal or c-section delivery. There is the increased risk of fluid being in the lungs because contractions and going through the birth canal helps to push this fluid out, however one of the main reasons for fluid being in the lungs following a c-section is because it was preformed too soon if you are going to have a c-section you should do it as close to your due date as possible to avoid this and other complications.
In an ideal world vaginal deliveries would be best for all situations, but this is not always the case in some situations c-sections are best. You and your doctor know what is best for you & your baby. Do as much research as you can so you can make the best deicison. Get points of view from both sides and ingnore those who have nothing beneficial to offer and only want to agrue with you.
Good Luck!