Kids or Spouse: Who do you love more?

[taraken]

Oh yeah...and your kids don't have to love you. My husband stopped talking to his mother when he was 11...and didn't talk to her until he was an adult. He talks to his father here and there about superficial stuff. I would say if he had to pick between my parents and his to get out of a burning building. No question it would be mine. Sorry to say that to all of you who think your kids will love you no matter what....but it isn't true.

[Jayney]

Oh yeah...and your kids don't have to love you. My husband stopped talking to his mother when he was 11...and didn't talk to her until he was an adult. He talks to his father here and there about superficial stuff. I would say if he had to pick between my parents and his to get out of a burning building. No question it would be mine. Sorry to say that to all of you who think your kids will love you no matter what....but it isn't true.

I think the women were referring to their infants/toddlers. And one of them said that she hopes that her children will choose to love her when she's older. Of course they don't HAVE to, but if you are a good, loving parent, I'm sure they will.

[Jayney]

When my daughter is grown, I hope she CHOOSES to love me

There's that quote.

[taraken]

Jayney...yes I wish I could delete my second post (I don't know how)...Kare.bear said it perfectly!

[Jayney]

Haha, it's alright. You can always edit it and say, "Have a nice day!" Lol. I know what you were saying, though. I don't have a relationship with my parents. I think that is why being a good parent is so important (not that it wouldn't be anyways) because I couldn't imagine my children not ever speaking to me.

[paulg01]

Think, that this is incorrect question. Because there are different spaces in my heart for kids and for spouse!And love is different...

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[shocker43]

This is not tough in the slightest bit.. These answers prove that people do not want to be honest with themselves. I applaud the women that put down their kids would win out for sure..as that is true in probably 99% of the cases. The upside is that you are very honest, the downside is your marriage is probably not going to work that well. There is a very common cliche that men can't handle the attention a wife gives to a new baby and it causes many divorces. In some cases, the men are selfish for sure, and ruin the marriage. Many of the cases though the women wrap themselves up so much in being a mother..that they completely neglect to be a wife. Remember, your love for your spouse came first, and created that child you are looking at..

[shocker43]

You will even see that this has turned into a conversation on will my kids love me when they grow up.. We are off on a bit of a tangent. Take time to consider the initial question, it might save your marriage.

[supermomwannabe]

I love my husband but I am no longer "in love" with him. It just happened in time. Regardless, I cannot say I love either one any more than the other because the love I have for my kids and the love I have for my husband are just different. Even when I was still "in love".