I am 9 weeks pregnant with my second child. My daughter is 14 1/2 months right now. I am super excited because we were trying, but I didn't expect it to happen on the first try! I am also very nervous about both having them so close and the day care finance situation! I wanted them about 2 years apart because my sister and I are 2 years and 2 months apart and we are the best of friends.
So here are my concerns!
1) My daughter was a very good baby (except that she didn't sleep well, still doesn't!) and people keep telling me that since she was good that this next one is going to be a terror.
2) I don't know if I should try to get my daughter out of the crib by the time the baby arrives or if they both should be in cribs at the same time (the set I bought her is a convertable set and when I bought it, I intended for it to be hers until she graduated to college!)
3) I wonder how bad the jealousy issues are going to be at that age.
4) Will I ever sleep since my daughter is down to 1 - 2-3 hour nap a day!
I'm in a similar situation. I'm 8 weeks into my second pregnancy and my daughter is 10 months old. We were planning on me getting pregnant in October or November so I stopped taking my birth control pill in July. I figured it would take a month or so for my cycle to get back to normal and then it could take a month or two for me to get pregnant. We were definitely surprised that I got pregnant right away!
We're happy because we want our kids to be close together in age. Kids that are close in age get along better growing up, which helps them have better relationships with each other as adults.
There is absolutely no truth that a good first baby guarantees a horrible second child. Kids are just different. Sometimes people luck out and all their children are wonderful, some have children who are all difficult, and others get a mix of both. So don't worry.
Toddlers can start sleeping in a toddler bed as early as 15 months if they're ready. So it's up to you to read her cues and figure out when you think she's ready for the switch.
There are lots of ways you can avoid jealousy. As long as you make time for each of your kids you shouldn't have problems. There are always articles on this subject in parenting magazines. It's definitely a problem that can be avoided as long as you take the right steps.
You probably won't sleep. That's something I'm concerned about as well!