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Sleep deprivation: How many hours a night do you get?

By Erin Zammett Ruddy on Friday, November 6, 9:10 am EST

Sleep has never been our problem. For all the issues we’ve faced with Alex -- MRSA, his severe allergies, his eczema, the fact that he now climbs out of his crib constantly and says F---! a lot -- sleep has never been one of them. He started going through the night on his own at about seven weeks and we haven’t looked back. Now bedtime is around 8 and he wakes up at around 7 and we rarely hear a peep out of him in between--and he’s never, ever slept in our bed. Needless to say, I get plenty of sleep. But something tells me that’s going to change very soon….

First, Alex woke up at around 11 p.m. last night saying there was a black monster in his room. “Mommy? Mommy?” he said. Then he stopped. Nick and I held our breath and two minutes later he was snoring again. But I just have a feeling we’re going to be in for it with him, especially when we move him to his big boy bed, which is imminent (he crawled out of his crib this morning and slammed his door, telling us not to come in, that he was reading books).

Oh, and I am already struggling through the night right now. I’m staying up later than I like (I’m reading a good book -- The Help -- and don’t want to put it down) and I’m waking up constantly. I can’t get comfortable. Probably because I’m nervous about the whole sleeping on my back thing so I wake with a start (on my back) and then think, did I cut off blood supply to the baby? Is she moving? (God I love the paranoia that comes with pregnancy…). Or I lie there thinking about deadlines or what photo I’m going to use for Christmas cards or baby names.

I remember this happening when I was pregnant with Alex and I thought of it as practice for when the baby arrived. But this time it just feels cruel. The past week I’ve been feeling a bit zombie-like during the day -- yesterday I actually took a little nap, which is so not like me -- and craving caffeinated coffee like it’s nobody’s business. And I still have two months to go before the real sleep deprivation sets in.

All this sleep anxiety has gotten me a bit worried about how things are going to play out when number two arrives. Obviously I know the beginning will be a blur but what about after that? Am I destined to have a bad sleeper since Alex was such a good one? Is Alex suddenly going to stop sleeping? Is it going to be easier to deal with the sleepless nights this time or, as I suspect, harder? I don’t mean to be such a whiner about this but I do like my sleep and I feel like it’s super important to our overall health and well-being (i.e., I’m kind of cranky and miserable without it). Thoughts?

 


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Colleen's picture
Colleen
I hit the third trimester
11/6/2009 at 9:47 am
I hit the third trimester and instantly stopped being miserable: I sleep about 7 hours a night, a little less if L (23 mos) wakes up during the night (usually 0-1 time). Napping on the weekend when L naps helps a lot. I'd say try and synch up the baby's nap with A's nap, and just take care of yourself. Ask Nick or family for a break - you deserve them. Feel better!


Holly's picture
Holly
I had a A+ sleeper from
11/6/2009 at 10:33 am
I had a A+ sleeper from about 8 wks until he was about 2. I put him in a "big boy" bed and that was the end of that. He is always out of his bed. I actually find myself starting his bedtime routine early to accomodate for literally 10 time he gets out of bed and walks to our room. I am so not used to this. I was lucky in the beginning but am paying for it now. Hope Alex sleeps well for you during his transition.


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Keri
You just never know...
11/6/2009 at 10:44 am
My first was a wonderful sleeper, and I was also scared that our second would be up all night - but she is a pretty good sleeper as well. So - you just might get lucky twice! As for the transition to the big bed - we had no problems. We left the crib up in her room, just in case. She fell out of the bed the first night, was crying and I said lets go back into the crib - and she said "no- big girl bed" - so we put her back in the big girl bed - and it was actually smooth sailing after that! So - perhaps leave the crib up in the room for a bit too - we took it down after about a week in the big girl bed - she was actually really proud to be in the new big bed - so didn't want the crib! Good luck!


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Melissa
You will be lucky to have
11/6/2009 at 10:49 am
You will be lucky to have another sleeper like Alex! I can probably count on one hand how many full nights of sleep I have gotten since Gregory was born-15 months ago! Your body gets used to the lack of sleep though. I actually feel more tired when I get a good night sleep than when I don't! I used to not be able to function without a good 8 hours. What I would do for that now!!!


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Merissa
Both my kids were great
11/6/2009 at 11:04 am
Both my kids were great sleepers and still are. As for the move to the big boy bed. We did the same as PP. We bought #1 his bed a few months before #2 was born. We set up the bed and left the crib in the room as well. But once we put him in his big boy bed, he never went back to the crib.


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Taylor Newman
Already sleep deprived
11/6/2009 at 11:24 am
My baby hasn't even arrived yet and I am not sleeping well at all-- sleeping on my sides all night is really uncomfortable (I also wake up on my back, super comfortable, and then freak out that I may have cut off the baby's blood supply), and I'm getting charlie horses, and peeing every few hours! Also trying to think of it as good practice, but it feels like torture.


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Claudia
I have 3 weeks to go until
11/6/2009 at 12:09 pm
I have 3 weeks to go until #2 arrives and the only time I sleep soundly is with the help of an Ambien! Doctor prescribed, of course. I haven't slept well this pregnancy at all. My son, who will be 2 tomorrow, has never been a great sleeper so I am hoping and expecting this baby to do better! Certainly she is just going to "know" that mom and dad need extra sleep to handle 2 kids, right?


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Paige
I am in the same boat.....
11/6/2009 at 12:20 pm
Unfortunately, I don't have any answers for you, but just wanted to chime in that you are not alone. I've been lucky to have an easy 8 mos of pregnancy, but I'm exhausted (already)! My 3yr old son has been waking up everyday for the last 3-4 WEEKS between 4-5am for the day! That and trying to sleep with a 20lbs medicine ball in my belly is exhausting and making me cranky - I'm freaking out that we have about 4 weeks to get his sleep back on track or I am doomed to sleep torture for several months! I've finally stopped trying to force him back to bed with bribes or punishments (neither worked) and now I just tell him he has to sit in his room in the dark quietly until 6:30am, but of course once he's up we are all awake and just laying in the dark for 2hrs fake sleeping and thinking about all the things I should be doing....I'm physically and mentally drained and can't imagine adding a newborn into the mix. I know why sleep deprivation is a form of torture....good thing they are so darn adorable (when they aren't bi-polar!) ; )


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Danielle
My 3 year old started
11/6/2009 at 1:34 pm
My 3 year old started sleeping through the night at about 7 months and even transitioned into a toddler bed without any problem at 2 years. But in April, due to an incident with our former cat, we had to put her in a single bed, and thats when the drama started! She would get up every hour and was either in our room or screaming until we came into hers. We tried closing the door to her room, resulted in more screaming. We tried threatening to close the door to her room, only worked for about a week. Then we got a pressure mounted baby gate! Worked like a charm the first night! She knew she couldn't go anywhere but at least the door wasn't closed! So after 2 months of using the pressure gate she now asks us to put it up after we kiss her good night, and is again sleeping through the night!


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Heather
Sleeping on your back
11/6/2009 at 3:36 pm
My 1st born is a crappy sleeper (he's still up 1-2 x a night at age 3.5) but my 15 month old is a great sleeper! You never know what you're going to get- but you survive it regardless. :) I wanted to chime in about sleeping on your back. Do Not Panic over that. Besides the fact that you'd have to be on your back a very, very long time to hurt the baby, you would also be so incredibly uncomfortable long before you did any damage that you'd naturally move. So relax and sleep however you're most comfortable!


Anonymous's picture
Anonymous
Erin, Get a body pillow to
11/8/2009 at 5:13 pm
Erin, Get a body pillow to help you with sleeping. It was a dream for me, I didn't have a problem sleeping my whole pregnancy. Good Luck!!


Back sleeping...
11/9/2009 at 1:33 pm
As long as its not for too long you should be fine. The main reason doctors say not to is because it puts pressure on some of your major veins that carry blood to your legs (or vice versa). And like a previous comment said, you will be uncomfortable and move once its been too long.


Glenda's picture
Glenda
My first born was just like
11/9/2009 at 2:48 pm
My first born was just like Alex. Slept through the night at about 6 wks and slept for 12 hrs straight if I let him :) My second born woke up at 5am and thought it was time to play :) You sorta get used to it and go with the flow. Try sleeping on your side and get a body pillow. That helps a lot!


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VeggieGirl
Embrace the nap
11/9/2009 at 6:14 pm
You just never know with kids and sleep. A good sleeper can turn bad at any time, and vice versa. Neither of my kids were good sleepers until well past toddler years, and I need sleep, so I'll confess it was dreadful. Since you can't control that, I say embrace napping! Nothing at all shameful about it and all the sleep experts say it's beneficial. You've just gotta sleep when you can!


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Jillie Bean
SLEEP???
11/16/2009 at 3:22 pm
Well I never thouhgt that I would be OK with a little person in my bed...I have now excepted the fact that Angelina is a sunggler(I AM NOT) I just have to remmber that she will not be sneaking in my room when she is 14 (well i hope not) The thought that so soon my kids will not want to be with me all the time is almost heart breaking. We wish they would be more independant, self motivated, able to take care of the little thing on their own, then when it starts to happen we want them back. We want them to ask for help. These young minds do grow and boy it happens faster then we can say "go back to your own bed!!" It took 5 kids to break me! Now that my boys are 10 years old I am starting to realize how much I love all of the time we sped together. When Iam laying there if I think that soon, "this to shall pass" it does help me appeciate the long nights a little more. Hey I painted a zebra print on the girls celing, not so much for them, but for me so when I am laying on their floor trying to get Angie to sleep I have somthig to look at, meditate on. It works.... I love you Erin you will look back at these days and smile.Love You Jillie


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