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By Daring Young Mom on Friday, June 6, 10:36 am EDT

Laylee loves it when I work out during the day because she gets to go to the playroom at the gym. In the gym playroom she gets to play with toys that are far germier and therefore much better than ours. She gets to watch movies on VHS and she gets to color with pencil crayons that are far better than ours because they are stubbier and they belong to the gym.

Lately, she's taken to following my example and "exercising" at home. She clears the toys out of the small storage area under the stairs and proceeds to stretch, run in place, and contort her body all sorts of ways to do her workout and yoga. Her favorite pose is the corpse pose, where she lays on her back with her arms along her sides and concentrates on her breathing. It's the pose she saw me doing at the end of a yoga routine that made her decide yoga was SO EASY!

I love how she follows in my footsteps when I'm being a good example but I'm a bit worried about how she'll copy me when my behavior is less than stellar. I thought about this as we were rushing to my yoga class this morning. She had hurried to squeeze in a workout under the stairs before we left so we could both have stronger, healthier bodies. I was late as usual and running around trying to get everyone ready as fast as possible. As I sped along to class, I told the kids that they'd need to get out of the car quickly at the gym and run into the toy room because we were already going to be late.

I find myself saying things like this a lot. "Be extra quiet as we’re walking into church. We’re late and we need to be super reverent so we don’t disturb the meeting."

"Go quickly into music class and sit right down. We’re already 15 minutes late and we don’t want to draw attention to ourselves."

"We need to get better at being on time."

How many hundreds of times have I acknowledged our lateness and told the kids we would do better next time? It seriously feels like we’re missing our lives, 15 minutes at a time. It doesn’t seem to matter what I do or how much I adjust our schedule, I feel incapable of being punctual.

I don’t imagine my kids have a chance of growing up as punctual people. They’ll probably just be more extreme. If my guess is right, they’ll end up being 30 minutes late to all of their appointments. And their kids will just never go anywhere because they have no chance of arriving anywhere before the event they’re trying to reach is over.

Following that line of thinking, since I work out for 45 minutes about 3 times a week, Laylee will likely exercise for about an hour 5 days a week and my grandchildren will be a bunch of Schwarzeneggers.

So my legacy will be to leave behind a generation of buff, late people with very attractive feet … or possibly not. I’m so concerned about the example I’m setting for my kids that sometimes I drive myself a little batty. In the end, I guess they’ll just be who they are and I’ll just keep trying to be better.

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Actually, it could go either
6/6/2008 at 12:30 pm
Actually, it could go either way with the punctuality. My mom was late ALL the time. Me? I'd rather be 15 minutes early than 15 minutes late - or even right on time. My husband's parents are always late. And he's okay with it. Well, he hates that his parents are always late (when they tell us they'll be leaving in a few minutes, we wait about 20 before leaving our own house to meet up with them), but he's fine with being late himself. Luckily, I mind more than he doesn't care, so we tend to be early for most things.


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Kristin
"Baby-time"
6/6/2008 at 9:18 pm
I am not always known for my punctuality. I can be on time for important things, and the truth is that I hate being late to stuff- I get easily distracted before I leave, and often arrive at a destination slightly late. My so called friends even named it "Kristin-time." (Like an appointment at 4 would be 4:15 in Kristin-time.) Then I had a baby. What a great excuse! I say use it to the fullest! When we arrive 15 minutes late- "Oh, you know how it is trying to get all of us out the door on time." or "She was napping and we didn't want to wake her up too soon." Eventually we'll work out the being on time thing...


punctuality
6/7/2008 at 2:11 pm
It drives me nuts to be late and I found that the more children I had, the more I was running crazy trying to be on time to everything. After a couple of $$ speeding tickets and some perspective gaining (what truly is more important, that 15 minutes or my babies' lives?), I decided to learn not to push things and do less in each day and realistically plan how long what I choose to do will take. So, now that I have 5 kids, we may not always do a lot of activities out of the neighborhood each day, but we're usually on time. Except of course on the days when I say to the boys "get in the car" and they interpret that to mean "run in separate directions everywhere BUT the garage". That's the other thing I'm learning about punctuality, the more people I'm in charge of, the less I actually have control of my time. I had no idea how much zen I would have to channel to be a mother.


Ah well
6/7/2008 at 2:33 pm
Don't sweat it too much on the lateness thing. I was once chronically late (it might as well be genetic on my mother's side), and my fiancee is hyper punctual. It rubbed off on me and now I am nearly always on time (or only late within 5 minutes). Learning to *accurately* estimate how long it takes to do things was what he really helped me with. Not to estimate how long I *wish* it took. :)


I'm always late, I always
6/9/2008 at 12:59 pm
I'm always late, I always have been. But I do hope that I get better. I don't really adjust anything though, I guess I just think that if I wish enough, it'll change. That works right?!


Giggle.
6/10/2008 at 4:14 pm
"Super Reverent." I love it.


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Anonymous
He's a Headbanger
6/23/2008 at 12:55 am
I have 3 yr old son who tends to bang his head against a pillow before he goes to sleep and sometimes as he is sleeping at night. What can I do? Is this normal?


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Anonymous
Bedtime Battles
6/23/2008 at 1:06 am
My son is 3 and my daughter is 4 yrs old. Bedtime is the most frustrating time for our family, because my children always refuse to go to bed. It seems that there is no end to such request as, "I have to use the bathroom." or "Can you sing me a song again [for the tenth time]" and my personal favorite is, "I need a kiss and hug." :-) They're crying and screaming when its bedtime or they get up and run around the house like they just got a hold of a galloon of 'Surge.' I am so frustrated with them and myself for having to repeat things and at times when they get a little bit mouthy, discipline them. Any suggestions on how we can make bedtime fun or at least be on the same page.


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Emelling
Don't like the contest!
6/23/2008 at 12:45 pm
I'm a mother of two, two years old and 8 months girls. I don't loke the contest of the messy cars. Why we have to celebrate something dirty and even worse if your children are involve. I don't imagine me having a car or my house like that and get use and laght at it. Nice.... who's the messiest. Wowwwww


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Garegare
Learn from mistakes
6/23/2008 at 2:52 pm
You all have your heads on straight... you should contact those crazies over on that show Baby Borrowers. These people loaned their babies out to teenagers who can't put their hats on straight


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