PMS

Oh-- I DO think all these pregnant women are showing off and shoving their bellies in my face saying, "ha, ha we're pregnant and you're not!".....at least that's what it feels like to me.....I did start my period and I'm pretty depressed....

Hi I am in a long term committed relationship, me and my bf, in our early-mid twenties, have every intention to marry. I am soon to be baptised into catholicism (his religion). we both want children very much. the thing is, recently, i jokingly said, "so you think I should come off the pill as soon as we are married?" and he answered in a serious way that i can even come off the pill now anyway , it would be ok. well err i would rather have a child sooner than later because I am finishing a degree in the coming months, soon to graduate, and want to have a child before continueing further in my career which was what I wanted even before I met my bf. money and work are not an issue due to a family business which allows flexibility, my bf has a stable and successful job as well. we both assumed we would have children in wedlock but that may be delayed due to my brother getting cancer treatment. Due to my brother's experience, I know the fear and pain of realising the possibility of not having children and I know how hard it is on him. i have been on the pill for about 4 years, and i know it takes some time for my hormones to get into normal fertile balance, so a part of me wants to say why not? I can stop the pill :) and get rid of the costs, hassles of it, not to mention, joyous possibility of conception! :D but can I take my bf up on his comment? I have no problem coming off the pill and letting life and nature take its course how it may, no one knows if we conceive next month or next year anyway, biology isnt always predictable. I dont know, i am a bit confused and I want to just stop the pill and let my body take its course, considering its good timing but on the other hand, would it be better to marry first? does it matter? having a child in a loving relationship means a lot to me, a marriage ceremony is only one part of a life together... would he really not have a problem with it? I wouldnt because I was not always consistent with the pill and didnt get pregnant, which does suggest it may take my body time to become fertile again. any thoughts on this? PLEASE tell me

Dear Sue Dont let these things overwhelm your emotions! I am sure you will be a mom soon enough. try to stay healthy, think positively, and dont overwhelm you body with pressure either.feeling and thinking positive goes a long way. I know it all sounds wishy washy but after doing psychology for the last 6 years, believe me, allow you peaceful side to keep your emotional downs at bay, take care of your body, let your mind and unconscience know what you want, and if you want to check things, go to your gyne, she or he can check that all is ok, also also ask her how your husband can check himself out because both are important in conception. there is no point in feeling down because your body isnt responding as fast as you expected or in a way you imagined it to. stay positive and take the necessary actions! i have every faith that u will be a happy mom, just dont be so hard on yourself! :) have some space for yourself to feel happy and calm, take a weekend break with your guy and spend some romantic time together, it helps to let your mind and body get calm enough to welcome conception. :)

i am in the same boat with you my friend. i want to become pregnant so badly...my pains are intolerable. not even having the "worst 3 year old ever" over here for 3 days wreaking havoc in the house made me change my mind about wanting to be pregnant. i'm the only girl out of my entire group of friends that is without child...frustrating

Was just browsing the blogs on parenting.com and got here. I'm 33 weeks pregnant today and I promise you I'm not one of the ones flaunting!!! I hate being pregnant, always have. This is our 2nd and last and I'm grateful it's in the home stretch. Maybe it helps to think how miserable some of us are at this stage and how we wish we could get our jeans on like you can! I was so depressed that no one could even tell I was pregnant for 6 months. Now I actually startle people (careful what you wish for LOL) and wish I wasn't showing. Good luck on your journey though! I am sure you are rolling your eyes at me thinking how you'd KILL to be in my position... and some days I wish I could trade with you!