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Feeling Less Than Fertile

By Rachel Rabkin Pechman on Tuesday, July 10, 6:00 am EDT

I don't feel pregnant. I don't think it's gonna happen this month. I don't really know why, but I'm just not expecting it to happen. Maybe I'm thinking the third try is meant be the charm as opposed to the second try. Or maybe I'm thinking that it just isn't meant to be that easy for me. Things aren't usually easy breezy for me, so why should getting pregnant be any different? Or maybe I weirdly think that I'll deserve to get pregnant more after I've tried for a little while longer — after I've earned it more. Weird, right? Lord knows plenty of fertility-challenged people "deserve" to get pregnant and don't, so I realize my logic is flawed. But perhaps it's because of those people that I feel like I should suffer a little more — pay my dues — before I receive this miraculous gift.

It's not that I'm a martyr. In fact, if it takes me too long, I'm pretty sure I'll start to get panicky. But, the second try just seems too easy. I'm hoping the third try will be the winner. Three is my lucky number.


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8/4/2008 at 3:23 pm
hi im 17yrs old almost 18 and i want another baby . i have a baby boy who is gonna be one in three months but i been trying for 6months with my boyfriend. its been so hard, and stressful cause i cant get pregnant again.


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Anonymous
Sweetie, you have plenty of
5/1/2009 at 1:57 pm
Sweetie, you have plenty of time for more babies. Enjoy your little one why you have the chance. :) They grow up so fast. It's hard to have two little ones so young and not married.


Have hope but be sensible.....
10/9/2009 at 6:42 am
You have nothing to worry about, from what i can see it appears you have no fertility problems.... you are simply not pregnant again instantly....so many things affect this. You are so so young, so you have so many years ahead of you and all the time in the world. At least you have your baby boy - if you search online you will see the absolutely huge community of non fertile suffers for varying reasons, degrees, accidents and illnesses. Spend an hour reading some blogs and you will soon be very very very grateful that you have your baby boy and this might put things into perspective for you a bit more --- which should minimise your urgency which in turn minimises your stress and thus improve your chances while also being aware if just how lucky you really are!!!!! 6 months is not a long time in the slightest to be trying so it is very early days for you - think about people who try for years and years... even the most fertile and healthiest people may not get pregnant in such a short amount of time. I wish you the best of luck on expanding your family but just keep the above in mind. :)


Anonymous's picture
Anonymous
I've been trying to get
10/20/2008 at 5:28 pm
I've been trying to get pregnant again since my miscarriage in February 08. I had a positive pregnancy test today but I'm terrified it will end in miscarriage.


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jhein2207
Need to quit smoking before I start trying
10/28/2008 at 2:18 pm
Any suggestions on ways to quit smoking natually? Ive done everytinhg I can to get my body ready to get pregnant, but im having a really hard time quitting smoking. This is my final hurdle. Any suggestions on what worked for you? Im willing to try anything!!


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Anonymous
Not Sure....Could I be????
11/7/2008 at 3:01 pm
My husband and I were planning to start trying in March. I was in a wedding two weeks ago and with the hectic schedule, late nights, etc I forgot to take my BC for 4 days. My husband kept joking that we would be pregnant a little earlier than planned when he noticed (he did..not me) I forgot to take them. We anyway...I am now two days late. I took a test this morning and it was negative. Could I be? I would be thrilled if I was, but if so...I feel like I did something wrong. I drank at the wedding and had wine last weekend. I take vitamins regularly but not pre-natal. Should I just wait a few more days and take another test????


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Anonymous
Natura family planning
2/1/2009 at 8:20 pm
Natura family planning Creiton Model works to "fix" all of those issues!!!!! acheaving, avoiding pregnancy as well as monitoring your cycles to stay healthy.


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Confused
Not sure if ovulation accured this cycle.
4/16/2009 at 7:32 pm
Hello all. I am new to this so please bear with me. I just turned 32 and had a tubal reversal done in Feb. this year. I have been charting my temps daily and paying attention more to my body for accurate timing of fertility. I noticed this cycle, i did not have my normal pain in my hips and mucus discharge when I was to be ovulating. I had some cramping and mild pain that did not last more than a day. Normally it is severe and lasts 2 days. I have been having discharge that is just wet and stings my husband when we have sex. This is normal for me to have but ends when I ovulate. I only have 1 tube open and am due next week. My mid section is uncomfortable and I feel so bloated. I have heartburn real bad and gas more often. I have 3 other kids but my youngest is 7 and I can't remember being this way so soon if I was pregnant. Is it possable I did not ovulate or I got pregnant and it was shorter? How early can I test for results? I never know witch side is releasing an egg since they rotate each month. We have this month covered and I hope we conceived. My headaches are aweful and just want to know is it pregnancy or hormones due to my period being due. I have never missed an ovulation before. Please help me cause I am about to give up trying so hard. Thank you, Confused


Anonymous's picture
Anonymous
I read your letter and it
10/9/2009 at 10:38 pm
I read your letter and it sounds like you could be pregant. My question to you is what made you decide to get your tubes untied? And if I may ask was it expensive? I am 38 and would like to have mine done.


Not sure if ovulation accured this cycle.
4/16/2009 at 7:35 pm
Hello all. I am new to this so please bear with me. I just turned 32 and had a tubal reversal done in Feb. this year. I have been charting my temps daily and paying attention more to my body for accurate timing of fertility. I noticed this cycle, i did not have my normal pain in my hips and mucus discharge when I was to be ovulating. I had some cramping and mild pain that did not last more than a day. Normally it is severe and lasts 2 days. I have been having discharge that is just wet and stings my husband when we have sex. This is normal for me to have but ends when I ovulate. I only have 1 tube open and am due next week. My mid section is uncomfortable and I feel so bloated. I have heartburn real bad and gas more often. I have 3 other kids but my youngest is 7 and I can't remember being this way so soon if I was pregnant. Is it possable I did not ovulate or I got pregnant and it was shorter? How early can I test for results? I never know witch side is releasing an egg since they rotate each month. We have this month covered and I hope we conceived. My headaches are aweful and just want to know is it pregnancy or hormones due to my period being due. I have never missed an ovulation before. Please help me cause I am about to give up trying so hard. Thank you, Confused


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Anonymous
why don't you go to your
4/21/2009 at 3:09 pm
why don't you go to your Doctor and get checked. I'm 38 and i just had the tubal reversal done 2 weeks ago, and as far as ovulating i really don't know how that works I had my tubes tied 18 years and never payed attention to that, but now that i'm going to try to gt pregnant i would like to know how that goes, and my question to you is how long did your doctor tell you you had to wait before you can get pregnant?


Anonymous's picture
Anonymous
i really want this
4/24/2009 at 3:49 am
Me and my boyfriend of one year have been trying to concieve for a while now!I really want us to be a family because this is what we have both been wanting!I have tried everything!Does anyone have any advice about tyring to concieve??


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Vidu
I am also going through the same
5/11/2009 at 5:06 pm
Yes , I am also going through the same. I and my husband is trying since four months. Nothing is working out, can anybody can help us with some tips please!


Some of the time the
4/26/2009 at 1:37 am
Some of the time the discussions made me feel as though having kids would be nothing but exhausting. Things aren't usually easy breezy for everyone.


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WANNA BE....Mommy 2 Be....=(
Goin Through The SAME Problem
6/23/2009 at 11:04 pm
I have been trying to get pregnant for 3 WHOLE months. Nothing seems to be working. I've been counting ovulation but i must not be counting right. I alway have sex when my discharge looks like "egg whites" but it hasn't happened yet. Im trying not to stress about it but im getting to the panic stage. Im worried that I might not be able to get pregnant but everything seems normal (talking about my periods and ovulation). I dont know what the problem is but me and my boyfriend of 3 years are really getting worried. Can somebody please help me and give me some advice? What could I do ? As for you ladies having the same problem,I feel your struggle,I am starting to give up hope. Im really confused so the most I could say about the situation is that we should all keep the hope alive and have faith in ourselves and just keep trying. We should help eacother cope. God has a plan for us !


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rachel
help me please
6/30/2009 at 4:40 am
okay i have been trying to get pregnant for about 2 months now im taking the ovulating test and parantalvitiams my periods arnt normal and its seems im not ovulating? i really want to get pregnant some one plez help me? what can i do


Anonymous's picture
Anonymous
Infertility
8/10/2009 at 11:45 pm
I've read through your blog postings. Congratulations to you on your success. My wife and I have been trying for a baby with, as yet, no success. I think that part of the problem is that we've waited until our early forties. Fertility rates drop dramatically from the mid-30s, something we really should have given more thought to. I've also found useful information here: http://www.howtogetpregnantnow.info Thanks


Anonymous's picture
Anonymous
never lose hope
8/28/2009 at 6:16 pm
Keep your expectations high and no matter what anyone says don't lose hope and never give up.


Anonymous's picture
Anonymous
help me
10/10/2009 at 12:22 pm
hi me n my fionce have been yrying 4 6months ive not had a period 4 3 months now but all the tests say no i went to my dr n he said coz i was on the pill n stoped that 6 months ago it mite be due to that but my periods were fine 4 the first 3 months my stomachs swallon and im bloated got heart burn on and off daily my discharge has increased and become thicker and i keep having cramps like period pain and ive found i need a wee twice as often its all the simptons but ive done 7 tests that are all negative any1 got any ideas and ways to get pregant thanks


Anonymous's picture
Anonymous
help me
10/10/2009 at 12:22 pm
hi me n my fionce have been yrying 4 6months ive not had a period 4 3 months now but all the tests say no i went to my dr n he said coz i was on the pill n stoped that 6 months ago it mite be due to that but my periods were fine 4 the first 3 months my stomachs swallon and im bloated got heart burn on and off daily my discharge has increased and become thicker and i keep having cramps like period pain and ive found i need a wee twice as often its all the simptons but ive done 7 tests that are all negative any1 got any ideas and ways to get pregant thanks


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