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Do You Post Photos of Your Kids Online?

By Patty at Babytalk on Friday, June 12, 2:25 pm EDT

I’m part of a message board for parents of twins in my community, where we share tips, ask questions, and share concerns. The other day one member wrote that a friend of hers had downloaded photos of her twins on Facebook, without asking her permission first. The twin mom was APPALLED that a photo of her precious children was floating around the murky waters of the “Interweb,” and asked the rest of us what we thought about posting pictures of our kids online.

Um, what year is this lady living in, I wondered. Don’t Facebook and other social networking sites exist for the sole purpose of showing off our children to random people from high school? I myself post probably hundreds of photos of my kids online -- and then check back regularly to count how many comments they receive. What’s the big deal?

Then I read this article about a Missouri clan who received a call one day from a friend of theirs living in Prague. He had just seen their family photo on a giant billboard in the Czech city, advertising a grocery store. Turns out, the photo was a holiday-card snapshot that the mom, Daniella Smith, had also posted on her website (extraordinarymommy.com). How it ended up touting a foreign store’s speedy delivery service is a mystery.

After I got over my initial jealousy -- why weren’t any of my family photos picked up for international advertising distribution? -- I thought, hmmm, kinda creepy.

Have I been wrong all along? Should I delete my Facebook albums, take down my blog, and erase any online trace of my family?


Member Comments
One step further
6/12/2009 at 3:53 pm
I'm of the same mind - mixed... but trudging deep in the muddy waters of the internet, dragging my family along with me. I'm keeping a family video blog at bradisadad.com and I'm holding nothing back.

Although I did self edit some pictures that have other children in them. I figure it should be the choice of each parent to put the pictures on the web, that choice shouldn't be made for you.


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Anonymous
Amen!!!
8/18/2009 at 2:12 pm
"I figure it should be the choice of each parent to put the pictures on the web, that choice shouldn't be made for you." So why is it that when people put a photo of MY child on their facebook or myspace without asking me, I don't get mad, but I politely request that they take it down or crop my child out. Yet they get angry at me for being such a spoilsport? My child, my decision, my desire to protect my child. To me, you cross a line when you post a picture of my kid and then get indignant because I'm not cool with it.


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feynman2
I have my kids on FB but
6/13/2009 at 10:16 am
I have my kids on FB but would not upload them to a webpage accessible by just anyone who stumbles onto the URL. There is software out there used by pedophiles looking specifically for pics of kids. Social networking sites are supposed to guard your info so only people you choose have access. I would suggest that the woman in the article contact the company and negotiate copyright fees. I doubt if the Czech Republic will honor American use policies but it's worth a try.


Boundaries
6/15/2009 at 1:14 pm
I think it's important to have boundaries with what is posted. I do post photos on Facebook that only my "friends" can view. On my blog, however I try not to give too much personal information and I post photos with their profiles and such. I try not to post anything with their full face in view. I don't want someone putting the information I post plus my children's photos together, that opens doors to them locating their schools, etc. Too many weirdos out there! My children's safety is #1.


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Anonymous
It's way too easy to do like
8/18/2009 at 2:15 pm
It's way too easy to do like you said, put together clues from different photos and figure out what school the kid goes to, what grade they're in, what soccer team they're on, etc. And even if you have it set to where only friends can view your photos, some people have 400 friends! And you don't know who your friends are letting view those pics. If you want to put your own kid out there, fine, but don't do it with mine! I'm a photo-taking, bragging about my kid mom, but I'm just not comfortable with her photo being online at all.


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Melanie
i post lots of pictures
6/15/2009 at 1:24 pm
I have pictures of my kids on my facebook and my myspace profiles. I do show them off as well as write blogs about their day to day happenings. I hope that they'll some day enjoy the journal entries as adults. With this in mind, however, I control all of my privacy settings very tightly. I seldom put my children's pics up as my primary photo. I always adjust the setting so only my friends can view my pictures. then I carefully judge who my friends will be. I have family that lives out of state. The pictures I publish onto the websites are the only one they get to see of our family. Then they can download and print whichever ones they like.


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Anonymous
First and foremost
6/15/2009 at 2:16 pm
First and foremost “Hi’s” to everyone and congratulations to Patty at Babytalk for this article! For us mom’s whom like to show of our children this articles is a little “alert” for us to think twice on what type of pictures, videos, information we post and where at also we post them. I’m one to admit that I post my daughters pictures on facebook and her videos on youtube but I keep them private and after my family view them I bring them down. I recently took them down from photobucket because it links them through a url even though my account is “private” people can view them! So parents BE ALERT!


Private Site
6/20/2009 at 12:16 pm
I have pictures of my son on a private website that needs a password to access. Personally, I have no problem showing him off to the world, but my husband is a private person and asked that I not put pictures of the baby on my blog.


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Anonymous
I understand guarding
6/22/2009 at 12:46 pm
I understand guarding pictures of your kids but what about other people that take pictures of your kids. I know when we go to parties we are not the only ones with a camera around. Those parents post too! I pretty much just accept that the pictures will be viewed by everyone and that is just the way it is. One way you can make sure it does not get reproduced though is to post in low or poor quality. That way it is almost impossible to blow up copy over and over.


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Berdine T. Japsi
Thanks for the advice. I was
7/21/2009 at 2:09 pm
Thanks for the advice. I was just wondering if I should have placed my kids photos online in facebook, even though I set controls on who sees them. The photos are primarily for viewing by family living out of state, and people I am catching up with whom I haven't seen in years. This is good information, and I will share it with whom I know.


No way
7/24/2009 at 3:00 pm
Im sorry, but I will not post any pictures of my kids online. If I have some great pics, I attach and email them to specific people. Not only does this, in my mind, protect my kids from you creeps out there, but also makes the pic that much more valuable to you and who receives it....


I post but password protect
8/15/2009 at 10:49 pm
I hardly ever post photos of my kids to Facebook, but I do post them to my family website at ParentShack.com. I have it setup with a password, so only my approved list of friends/family can get in to see my kids photos and videos. Super easy and safe.


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Anonymous
The years I spent working in
8/24/2009 at 9:50 am
The years I spent working in TV production made me extraordinarily sensitive about how images are used and consumed. It's wrong to broadcast people's images without their permission. Children are too young to give theirs. So, unless your child is a celebrity, don't do it. (This isn't just about safety. It's about privacy and autonomy, too.) Here's a freaky story about a Massachusetts mom who found a photo of her own child being used as part of an adoption scam: http://www1.whdh.com/news/articles/local/BO120552/ (MA mother finds own child advertised to adoption). It also makes me uncomfortable when my friends use their children's photos as their own Facebook avatars. (Creepy.) I know, I know, I'm a total hothouse flower on this issue. It's just that the world has changed much and I don't think people regard their own or their children's images and privacy highly enough.


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Anonymous
I couldnt agree with you
11/2/2009 at 5:55 pm
I couldnt agree with you more! I wish my friends felt the same way. Unfortunatly some of them think I'm crazy and paranoid! I hope to find friends that I can relate to very soon.


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Tammy
Of all my previous Myspace
11/13/2009 at 12:18 am
Of all my previous Myspace and current Facebook friends, I think that I am the only one who does not post pics of her children. I would absolutely love to show them off, but I just want the piece of mind. I don't think it's worth the risk or even worrying about the risk.


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Anonymous
I never want to post
8/30/2009 at 9:01 am
I never wanted pictures of my new baby online. A friend took pictures and posted them on flickr then on facebook without my permission and I just happened across them. I am furious!! I have already told friends and family that I don't want his picture online at all and I don't know how to confront this person without making waves. Some moms like to post and that's just fine. I don't, though, and I believe that if you want to post pictures of my kid, you'd better ask me first (so I can say no!) :)


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A good reason not to post the photos online
Here's a good reason not to
9/18/2009 at 8:29 pm
Here's a good reason not to post photos of your kids online. There are sick people who do things like this: http://www.holytaco.com/25-visits-pedo-bear many are of children's photos from the internet. Creepy if you ask me.


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Anonymous
What is it on that website?
11/2/2009 at 12:48 pm
What is it on that website? It says page not found.


It would be nice if social
9/23/2009 at 7:54 pm
It would be nice if social networking sites could enforce the privacy rights of the images they host. This I assume is virtually impossible and as a rule of thumb I would always leave it up to the discretion of the parent posting the photos. I think anyone using the internet should know by now that nothing is truly private. If you aren't comfortable posting and publishing under those pretenses then you shouldn't do it. The same way an employer can hire or fire you based on what they see on your Facebook page, we shouldn't be shocked when anyone steals your images to do what they want with them. You chose to post them and you should be able to deal with the worst case scenario.


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Anonymous
posting photos
10/20/2009 at 2:03 am
My daughter berated me about being on my "Facebook" about how facebook uses my information in any way they choose. Then she goes and posts a picture of my grand-daughter that I took and own the original. How should I consider this. She gave me the impression that I shouldn't share with people. I am sure she would not let me post the picture, not that I would because of the issure you stated in article. My grand-daughter is pre-teen. I don't want to be in a war with her. What should I do?


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Anonymous
I DO NOT post my daughter's
11/2/2009 at 10:52 am
I DO NOT post my daughter's pictures online at all! I think it's a disgrace when ppl post other ppl's kids without asking. But hey I guess it's how some ppl were raised. Not to respect other ppl's feelings I guess? I actually had to put a reminder note in my daughter's 1st birthday invites because of this crazy internet world! I actually lost touch with some friends because this is one wish they could not respect. They liked to question my decision and I dont feel I have to explain myself. My baby, my choice. If you cant respect it you are not a friend and not worth having in my or my family's life. I watch the news and I research causes of sexual abuse and how to keep my child safe. I know what these sick perverts do and how they search online for children. It's a sick world. I will never post my baby's pics online. I get tons of ppl asking me to post so they can see her. What did ppl do before Facebook and Myspace? You saw their kids when you saw them at parties, school etc. I stand by my decision and will never change it. My baby comes before all of those self centered ppl.


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Anonymous
easy
11/18/2009 at 9:15 pm
Get a grip. Realize that there are trillions of pictures of kids online. I'm sure as a coherent parent, your fully clothed, cute kid, isn't going to draw attention from creepers on secure Websites. People just want to see your kid because they're your friend or relative. It's 2009.


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Anonymous
Too late
11/18/2009 at 9:08 pm
If you've already put pics on a social networking site your pictures are already theirs. If you are a member of Facebook you gave up your rights to your own pictures when you signed up. They can use your pics for what ever they want. Even if you delete your account, your pictures still exist in their archives. Read the fine print with sites and their picture policy if you are that concerned. Still though, don't put up pictures of other peoples kids. It's weird.


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