I am African-American and my son is half American-Lithuanian (not quite pasty but definitely white). For some reason I never know the ethnicity of people he speaks about until I actually meet them because it isn't something he "has" to see. We live in a majority suburb near a major eastern metropolis and there is a little diversity if you seek it. I don't know when my son will need to pick an identity because there are many children around him that haven't tried to make him 'choose'. A lot different than when I grew up in the midwest.