I totally feel your experience. :-) I'm Sri Lankan/Malaysia (so not white) and my husband is a blond, blue-eyed Dane who looks like a modern Viking. Our daughter looks like him in features, but with an almond tan and dark brown hair, so in between both of us! I'd LOVE for her to grow up speaking both Danish & English, so the spouse tries to speak to her in Danish as often as he remembers, as do my in-laws. (I'm trying to learn, but it's slow going.) My mother speaks our native dialect of Tamil, which I only partially understand, so with everyone speaking to her in other languages, sometimes I'm totally lost! :-) But she seems to understand everyone, so I think it's just fun. What I've started to do to help along the Danish, since I'm the stay-at-home parent, is to say some simple-but-common words in Danish to her, like 'nej' (pronouned "n-EYE") instead of 'no'. It sounds gentler for little things that she shouldn't touch, etc. and I save a louder, harsher 'no' for the really dangerous things. This is working so well both for her and for me learning Danish, that I've been contemplating teaching her more easy Danish words around the house (ie, cat, bath, etc.). As far as culture goes, we eat Danish smørrebørd (open faced sandwiches) just as often as South Indian rice & curry, For the baby's upcoming birthday, we'll go to the local Hindu temple for a blessing, but will have a Danish-style cake; stuff like that. We have other mixed marriages in our family, enough that blending the cultures in our daily life has become autopilot in many ways. Other times, like special occasions, we have to plan the two together, like for the baby's birth blessing; we had a Hindu priest do a typical blessing, but also did an old Viking ritual where the father sprinkles the baby with water and 'names' her.