I enjoyed your article. We must be getting some of the same advice somewhere as I try to use the same techniques you mentioned. The holding hands and working it out seems to cool things down quickly! Doing the other's chores to me, anyway, shows them, if you hurt some one somehow, you have to pay it back....to try to make it up. One thing I tell my oldest, who's next sister is only 21 months younger than her, but they are polar opposites....in 20 years, when you have something really really good happen or really really bad happen- you're going to want to call your sister (just like I do) and the way you treat her now could influence if she decides to answer the phone or just let it ring. It makes her think for a good 30 seconds anyway....