I have been all the way through to the other side and you never figure it out. There is always a new phase, which means a place you as the parent have likely never been even if you have multiple children, cuz they are all different. You just do your best, and you will because your children are your priority. Then when things don't turn out the way you had hoped you can look back with no regrets, knowing you did your best. Kids do what they want to do, they are individuals and no mater how hard you try to be the perfect parent, they will make some choices that don't make you proud. That just isn't your fault. You can be proud of the positive choices the make, hopefully it will balance out. Enjoy your kids, don't waste time worrying about "are you doing a good job". Just do the very best you can with the tools you may have been given, by you parents who were flying by the seat of their pants 100!